Comments on: 5 Things Women Really Want when it comes to sex.

By: Funnygirl408

Funnygirl408 — Fri, 10 Feb 2012 17:50:00 +0000

Yes!!! More kissing!!! That is the best and makes everything else you do, that much better!!!

By: May I Have a Menu Please? | Bring Back Desire - rediscovering sensual pleasure and intimacy

Tue, 02 Aug 2011 23:19:35 +0000

[...] begin, I suggest checking out Chrystal Bourgon’s excellent article Five Things Women Really Want When It Comes To Sex. Chrystal is a Sexpert and Pleasure Coach and has years of parties and interviews from which [...]

By: lucia lehrer

lucia lehrer — Sat, 19 Jun 2010 12:02:43 +0000

I agree with everything on that list. But I believe that since boys will be boys, instead of complaining, a woman can initiate an evening of pleasure.
There are ways of dealing with the kids for and evening, or even mid day trysts, when the kids are at school. While women sit and complain, their husbands are getting massages at my apartment. What “I” always hear is, I love my wife, we have a great relationship, but you know “I’m a man”.
I know a lot of us sex advisers love to help, But what ever we say, and however we try to convey the importance of great sex, lets face it if you don’t have it in you, it might never happen!….I do believe that the woman has the power! And if a man is treated like a man, most of them would do exactly what the women want. I started to add videos on fb, to explain the importance of femininity. Maybe with that notion, There will be a lot of moaning at night:)

By: Chrystal Bougon

Chrystal Bougon — Sun, 02 Aug 2009 08:36:54 +0000

Great input. I would love to hear more from you about what it is men really want from sex. I am compiling that article and have done some surveys and have been asking men everywhere I go and can discuss this type of stuff.

My article is just based on talking to women within our Home Pleasure Party evironment, so we do tend to do more parties for heterosexual women/moms. We have done some pleasure parties for lesbian groups, poly groups, bi groups so these ideas all came from the input I have received from the over 10,000 women I have talked to in the last 6.5 years.

I agree – women need to show enthusiasm, work hard to keep it fresh, pay attention to variety, and all the things you sugges. Everyone’s favorite technique is ETHUSIASM no matter what it comes to in the romance or sex department.

Please do send me your ideas and I would love to incorporate into my “what men want” from sex article. Thanks for your input. How did you learn about our blog? Sincerely, Chrystal

By: Austin

Austin — Sun, 02 Aug 2009 06:20:06 +0000

To be honest, I don’t understand why you don’t publish 5 things men really want when it comes to sex as well. Shouldn’t men’s partners be expected to give them the same level of favors to please them sexually? Lots of things men want done the woman simply “doesn’t want to do”, and it seems strange to me that men are expected to go out of their way to please the woman with and not expect them to return the sentiment. Sure you see sex idols who always seem to be jumping through hoops to please the man, as is the fantasy, but in my opinion the majority of women are not willing to go through so much trouble just to “please a man” consistently. Whereas a man might like you to put on a sexy stripping show for him as foreplay, you might want him to kiss you more and “butter you up”; to be honest I get the feeling as a reader that inconvenience to men is all a part of the sexual game and that females are some goddess to be put on a pedestal and waited on hand and foot. This, of course, leads me to my next point which is that I find that this article makes the blatant assumption of the traditional female/male stereotype that all men are disgusting, selfish, and do “man things”, and that all women are clean, under-appreciated, and do feminine things like make dinner and drive minivans. If you want empowerment sexually and otherwise stop assuming that every woman lives a life that was televised twenty years ago. Just my two cents.

By: Ilse

Ilse — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 07:50:04 +0000

Thanks for the awesome post, Chrystal! I think one of the most profound things we do in life is bonding with a partner or a friend, whatever gender, because it requires us to push our boundaries, grow, communicate… to do things differently and open ourselves up.

By: Chrystal Bougon

Chrystal Bougon — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 17:43:14 +0000

Oh so true, Christine. I am going to grab a piece of what you wrote and post it on Facebook. This is an important conversation. Thanks so much. You really put a fine point on the topic of female sexual energy and I love it.
Blissfully, Chrystal

By: Christine Arylo

Christine Arylo — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 00:43:13 +0000

I just have a few words… own your sexuality.
Okay and a few more…
Owning your sexuality has nothing to do with how often you have sex or how much you enjoy it — although i will say that both will increase if you own your sexuality. Owning your sexuality is about throwing off the social stigmas and embracing a power so deep and sacred.

As women, we have been conditioned to repress our sexuality for centuries. Been told it’s dirty, lewd, only for closed doors or only to be controlled by another. And that is because there is such HUGE power in it. When we are connected to our sexual energy we have infinite ability to create … we are liberated to express ourselves and create the life we want. So if you are 21st century woman and you can’t yet fully embrace or express your sexuality (and just so you know most women can’t) or if you’re not even sure what that means (most of us don’t know until we’ve started exploring) … start exploring sexuality and your sexuality, and you’ll be amazed at what you find!

By: David Bruce Leonard

David Bruce Leonard — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 08:23:36 +0000

And speaking of massage …
Click here: http://www.davidbruceleonard.com/HTWTG_Bodywork.pdf
For a free sample of erotic massage techniques from How to Worship the Goddess and Keep Your Balls: A Man’s Guide to Sacred Sex

By: David Bruce Leonard

David Bruce Leonard — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 08:09:10 +0000

Speaking of kissing, here is an unusual awareness exercise from How to Worship the Goddess and Keep Your Balls: A Man’s Guide to Sacred Sex
http://www.davidbruceleonard.com/ROL_worshipthegoddess.html

Infinite Kiss (Wei Wu Wei Kissing)
In Infinite Kissing we allow our mouths to become sensual organs that explore our partner’s lips and even parts of her face. We do not explore her lips for our pleasure, or for her pleasure, but just to explore. We are not chasing arousal, although arousal may happen.
As we allow our kiss to become infinite, we become lost in the swirling moist embrace of our lovers mouth. Once we have learned to immerse ourselves in our lover’s lips without agenda we may become addicted. We may find ourselves missing whole days of work due to this exercise.