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People often get confused and think of sex toys as something you only use alone.  They are a fabulous way to enhance your love making TOGETHER and we are going to outline some ideas for how to use your vibrators with your guy. Obviously, they are fab for solo fun; but sex toys can REALLY amp up the intensity of partner sex. If you have a male partner that is a little bit apprenhensive about incorporating a sex toy, just do as my friend Joan Price says and tell him you’re ready for a “threesome.” You, him and B.O.B. (Battery Operated Boyfriend.)

If he is hesitant, make it all about him. Tell him you are going to use it on him to give him a porn star style b.j.  Or, tell him you will get on top and put the vibe between the two of you on your clitoris.  He will appreciate the fact that he gets to look at your face, see and touch your breasts and that you are going to do all of the work.

Sexy Ways to Use Your Sex Toy WITH Him: Sex Toys are an Appetizer, Men are the Entree

1.  While you are giving him a b.j. put the vibrator against your cheek on the outside so he can feel your mouth humming and vibrating.  Just adds a bit of tingle and a new sensation for him. (You can try the simple silver bullet for this toy.)

2. Take your panties or g-string off and wrap a bullet style vibrator in your panties and then rub the vibrator on his testicles, the shaft of his penis, all over his nipples and then maybe a little on your nipples, too. He will feel the silkiness of your panties and the vibe! FUN!

3. For men who are more comfortable with a vibrator, rub it on his testicles while you are giving him oral. This can make a b.j. very efficient, ladies. (Some men finish much more quickly then normal when they have a vibe on their balls. Just saying.)

4.  For men that are super comfortable with toys, rub a little lube on the perenium (taint) and rub that area with a small vibe. Make sure he knows he can trust you not to do anything he is not comfortable with while you are in that area. (Most men describe a prostate massage as one of the most intense orgasms they have ever felt, but not all men are ready for that and NOBODY wants to be surprised in that area.) But, light vibration under the balls on that little soft spot can be very intense for them. (Have you seen the Aneros prostate massager toys for men?)

5. How about giving him a massage and tucking a small vibe into your hands while you massage his inner thighs, his back, his neck and the back of his thighs with some oil and a vibe. There is also something called a massage mitt which you can use for massage and tuck in a vibe into the mitt.

6.  While he is going down on you, have him slide a small g-spot toy like the Finger Fun into your vagina with the g-spot tip angled towards your g-spot which is on the belly button wall of your vajayjay. You will have a super intense orgasm and it will make oral on you VERY efficient. He can also tease your clitoris with it and help you to have a clitoral orgasm very quickly…. or maybe two… or three…. or four ???

7. Give up total control and give him the battery pack. Try giving him a b.j. or while he is inside of you, put it on you clitoris. Give him the control and let him turn the vibe up or down. (Very fun with the 5 speed bullet as it has 5 pulsations and escalations and can get you trembling and climaxing together!) You won’t know where he is going with it and it can really add to the anticipation and the playfulness that will make your experience that much better.

8. Tie him up or maybe just blindfold him and make it all about him for an hour or a half an hour. Get him good and relaxed and touch every inch of his body with your hands, tongue and body…but occasionally slide a vibrator on low on his more sensitve areas…. but avoid touching his penis for a little while. Have fun watching his penis twitch, get hard, relax,  get hard and repeat. You can get a feel for which sensations he REALLY likes and which sensations he really DOES NOT like by watching the reaction of his penis. FILE THIS AWAY ladies!  Good info for later. (A fun toy for this type of play is the Mystic Wand. It’s truly a cordless back massager and it’s got 7 speeds and some of them are very low which can be nice for this kind of exploration.)

9. Last but not least, find your favorite toy in your dirty drawer and give it to him. Let me know you want a little warm up with your fave toy, but you want to include him. Have him strip down, lay next to you, cradle your back or neck with one of his arms so you are face to face and able to make out. He has the toy in his other hand and can use it on you while still feeling like is a part of the process. (Though some men love to be in the “catchers” position up close and personal with the toy and your clitoris.) It’s a great way to feel very connected when you are using a toy with your lover.

For women, a small vibrator on their clitoris is pretty much a guaranteed orgasm.  Our BONUS TIP #10. When you are making love, put a small bullet on her clitoris while she is on her back, or while you are having sex doggy style, or on her side, her on top, reverse cowgirl.. you name it, it works. She gets the benefit of a clitoral orgasm from penetration which rarely happens. He gets the bonus of knowing she had an orgasm so he does not have to worry and ask that dreaded question. And, when a woman climaxes, her vagina contracts and tightens down on the penis and can really enhance his experience! It’s a WIN WIN!

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Blissfully, Chrystal Bougon

Sex Toy Expert

Do you have a list of things you would like to try sexually? Maybe sex in an elevator or in a dressing room? How about sex with a celebrity or sex with a stranger? Do you want to try a sex swing or have a threesome? (If you need a sex swing for your bucket list, please shop our online store www.BlissConnection.com  )

Where is the craziest place you’ve ever had sex?

I’m very excited to interview Michael Lucente, creator of the Sex Bucket List activity book. Check out the Sex Bucket List’s website and you can order one of his activity  books for $19.99 on his site, too. Just in time for Christmas!

We all have a bucket list, right? And most of us have a sex bucket list – even if we’re not willing to admit it. Does your love life need a shot in the arm? Whose doesn’t? This could give you and your partner some ideas you never thought of!

Sex on the golf links anyone? How about sex in the movie theatre? How about sex in Lake Tahoe (that’s on my bucket list!)  You can tune in live on Wednesday at 11 a.m. and listen to our live show on www.BlogTalkRadio.com/BlissRadio  or later hear the podcast of our show on www.BlissoniTunes.com !

Tell us what is on your sex bucket list! Please leave your ideas on our blog here!

Blissfully, Chrystal   www.Facebook.com/BlissConnection and our online sex toy store is www.BlissConnection.com

Are you holding back in the bedroom? What is it going to take for you to finally just surrender and let go?

Are you waiting to lose that last 10 lbs or baby fat? Are you waiting until you finally start going to yoga three times a week or running 10 miles a week? Are you waiting for those stretch marks to go away or are you waiting until you go and get that long over due pedicure?

Stop waiting! It’s time. SURRENDER! Let go. Leave it all somewhere safe – I promise the negative self talk and all of the doubt will wait. Lock it up and put it somewhere and let your hair down, girl! Having a great sex life means you have to stop doubting yourself and stop picking yourself apart. I promise if he has an erection, he is likely not noticing your saggy breasts or your cellulite!

One of the keys to having a great sex life is letting go of all of that negative self talk. And, stop comparing yourself to other women or other couples. You are you! Only you can do what you do the way you do it. You are your own special sauce. If he was not into something about you he probably would not be in a bed with you. Right?

Ok, so now go find those panties, lingerie or costume and go put it on. ROCK HIS WORLD. People remember how you make them feel not how you looked while doing it. SERIOUSLY. You know all of this already. Why aren’t you practicing it? Why are you holding back and being a “good girl” in the bedroom? Stop letting the media and all of that crap you brought up learning about what a lady does or does not do. I am not suggesting you let your class go out the window. You can be classy and dirty at the same time. FOR REAL!

Sex is such a fabulous way to stay connected to your partner. I know for me, when I feel like I could possibly commit a homicidal act against my partner and I want to wring his neck – I just take a deep breath and remember “this too shall pass.”  And, I find that when we make up and get back together in bed it reminds me how much I actually really do like him.

As one of my good friends says “stop buying what the media is selling” and remember that for every man that loves a size 2 there is an equal amount of men who love a size 22. For every man who loves DDD breasts there are an equal amount of men who love an A cup. (Yes, some men DO NOT like super big boobs. Seriously. They are turned off by them. No joke!)

I know I say it a lot, but you are PERFECT exactly the way you are. Especially when you believe that and LOVE yourself for exactly how you look RIGHT NOW. And, when you have that kind of confidence in the bedroom and you just stay in the moment and surrender to the act – you both will go places you have never been before.

If you are already fabulous at all of this kind of stuff and you know how to help us all to let go of the crap that the media and society brainwashes us into believing – please share your tips and tactics here. We’re all a work in progress and I know I can sometimes doubt myself, too. (Especially the 2 days leading up to my cycle.)  So, we all need a reminder.

My goal is that every time you worry about dimming the lights or  you get too nervous to wear that new vinyl skirt or that skimpy thong for him – you hear my voice in your head saying to you “GO FOR IT. YOU ARE PERFECT! GET GREEDY! Go rock his world!”

Blissfully,

Chrystal Bougon

www.Facebook.com/BlissConnection

My passion is your passion. I am the Chief Toy Officer for www.BlissConnection.com and I love to help women and couples to have mind blowing sex!

Some of you have probably heard me get on my soap box about all of the really crummy ingredients some of the lube companies put in their lubricants. It really gets my feathers ruffled! I mean – hellooooo! We are putting this lube inside of our vaginas people. I could go on for hours about the negative stuff, but I choose to focus on the positive and teach my fans and customers about BODY SAFE products that are healthy and 100% safe. (And, if you have an opinion about lube, please share it on my Bliss fan page this week so we can incoporate it into our show. Bliss on Facebook.)

I am excited to introduce you all to Blossom Organics.  And check this out. Blossom Organics also makes a sensual cream that can turn your monthly breast exam into something that does not have to be 100% clinical. What a great idea. And, in honor of breast cancer awareness month – they are donating to the Breast Cancer Fund when their customers purchase this cream. Now that is brilliant.

The below information is from Blossom-Organics.com. Tune in this Wednesday the 26th at 11 a.m. Pacific as we talk lube and boobs!  www.BlogTalkRadio.com/BlissRadio

For over 20 years, Blossom Organics Founder, Melissa Jochim, has successfully developed safe, naturally pure organic skincare products for known and trusted brands. Expanding from her initial focus in skincare, she was shocked to see the lack of authentically natural, female-friendly products in the intimate care market. Although many products claim to be “natural,” “organic” and “safe,” Melissa’s passion drove her to achieve a higher standard through the formulation of Blossom Organics Intimate Care Collection.

In pursuit of healthy well-being, beautiful intimacy and blissful pleasure, Blossom Organics creates safe, naturally pure intimate care products. Melissa’s story resonates with so many mindful women that we at Blossom Organics want everyone to experience the pure pleasure of allowing their sensuality to blossom.

http://www.blossom-organics.com/

We have chosen to demonstrate its support of the Breast Cancer Fund’s ground breaking work by creating Revitalizing Breast Cream. We donate $5 from every purchase of its Revitalizing Breast Cream to the Breast Cancer Fund. In recognition of the Peak Hike and the upcoming Breast Cancer Awareness Month, Blossom Organics is sponsoring special discounted pricing for its Revitalizing Breast Cream at select retailers for the month of October.

http://www.blossom-organics.com/intimate-care-collection/revitalizing-breast-exam-cream/

www.breastcancerfund.org

The first product ever scientifically proven to mask the taste of semen. www.YourMasque.com is designed for oral sex on him. And I am interviewing the founder of the company tomorrow on Better Sex Radio. To tune in you can listen live at 11 a.m. Pacific at www.blogtalkradio.com/blissradio .

Years of research have led to this breakthrough for your bedroom. Masque is a paper-thin, gel strip that dissolves on your tongue and completely disguises the taste of semen during oral sex for up to fifteen amazing minutes. We’ll work our magic, while you work yours.

How does it work?

Masque is partially comprised of flavor masking ingredients that work to block taste profiles associated with oral sex on men, and semen (salts, bitters, and proteins). These masking ingredients are all microencapsulated into an orally dissolvable, flavored strip.

Is Masque like other novelty products? (e.g. flavored lubricants and flavored condoms)

No, Masque is not another flavored novelty product. Masque has been designed by a team of scientists and researchers who have engineered a formula combining individual taste receptor blockers which are microencapsulated in a paper thin, dissolvable, oral gel strip.

Couldn’t I just use a mint or Altoid for a similar effect?

Masque doesn’t overwhelm the flavor or cover it in the way that a mint does. For up to fifteen minutes after the strip dissolves on your tongue, the salts, bitter and protein are completely masked to your taste receptors.

Is Masque just like a Listerine® strip?

Masque is a similar product to Listerine® strips in that they are both dissolvable oral strips. The similarities end there. Masque actively conceals all flavors associated with going down on your man.

What flavors does Masque come in?

Masque is currently available in Strawberry, Watermelon and Chocolate. Each has a slight menthol hint.

When will you release other flavors?

We are currently in various phases of development of other flavors. If you have a suggestion for a flavor you’d like to see, drop us a line.

How long will it last?

Masque is fast-acting with immediate results after the strip dissolves. Initially the masking technology was designed to last approximately 10 minutes, but since then, individual usage tests have shown strips typically last up to 15 minutes and in some cases longer.

Great idea, right?

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A wireless sex toy / vibrator that couples can wear! I love this concept. Several companies have attempted it, but I have not been able to find one that works for me. (For various reasons, they have not worked. I don’t want to go into detail here or bad mouth other sex toy companies.) I am going to keep this all about WHY I loved the MyFixSation.com toy that Tiffany York sent me to sample. And, you can buy one from us at Bliss here online. Free shipping, too.

So, right away I knew I loved MyFixsation.com because they actually thought about ALL BODY TYPES for their panties! You see, their little vibrator fits into a special pair of panties that let the panty hold the vibrator on your clitoris and labia so it stays right where you need the vibration! Tiffany believes like I do that ONE SIZE DOES NOT FIT ALL! So, she has the special panties available all the way up to a 2x. Hallelujah Tiffany. With the average American woman at a size 12, we are going to need some panties that fit all of us. Big girls LOVE great sex, too!

I’m really looking forward to interviewing Tiffany of MyFixSation.com on Better Sex Radio this Wednesda, Oct. 5th at 11 a.m. You can tune in live at  www.BlogtalkRadio.com/BlissRadio

I love this. This is from the MyFixSation.com website about relationships and intimacy:

Intimacy is the key to successful relationships!

We believe that when two people in a relationship stop making love, or rarely make love, they begin to lose their connection to each other. As a consequence, the intimacy in their relationship suffers, resulting in a myriad of escalating problems. FixSation wants you not only to have sex with your partner, we want you to have the BEST SEX you’ve ever had in your life and in your relationship. We believe that when this happens, your desire to have more sex will increase, forming an improved connection with your partner, and enhancing the intimacy in your relationship.

Check our their Facebook page for their products:  https://www.facebook.com/MyFixSation

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So excited to interview Desiree Duffie of www.Jopen.com today about the Jopen products.  I was lucky enough to get to sample the Jopen Vanity rechargeable vibrator and loved it!

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NSFW! Not safe for work, people. A friend of mine heard about this video on Red Tube that demonstrates a fantastic technique for giving a woman a squirting orgasm.

It is very very explicit, but it shows exactly the right kind of hand technique and the perfect position for the female partner. You can see the woman ejaculate (squirt) and you can see her body shake and twitch involuntarily from the intensity of the g-spot orgasm. (G-spot orgasm tips from Bliss blog here.)

SQUIRTING ORGASM DEMONSTRATION VIDEO   (N. S. F. W. )

Many women freak out about g-spot stimulation. Because the g-spot is so close to the bladder, it sometimes gives us that sensation like we need to pee. What I like to recommend is that you empty your bladder before you play so you can relax and not worry about peeing on your partner.

This video is cool because he has a massage table and clearly a loving, trusting relationship with the woman. (And, I love the dream catchers on the wall! ) But the massage table and the camera set up in exactly the right spot is perfect for demonstrating this technique.

And, ladies, seriously. You will not pee. Your body has a mechanism that turns off the ability to pee when you are aroused. So, relax. Enjoy. Go with it. You know how after you have sex with your partner and you go to the restroom and you have to really focus and concentrate to actually be able to pee after sex? That’s that mechanism. The tissue around your bladder and urethra swell up so it takes some focus to actually be able to urinate immediatly after sexy time.

So far, the research seems to indicate that when women squirt or ejacuate, the fluid (which is closer to water then to urine) comes from the skinhs gland that is right inside of our urethra. So, when women do squirt it does come from the urethra – but not from the bladder. This gland is closer to the opening of your urethra (which most people call the pee hole).

If you would like to read some more about Sex Facts : Fact or Fiction here is a cool link on Web MD that goes through some of he myths about the g-spot, female ejaculation, penis size, etc.

This video was done so well – I wish this couple would do more videos. They do not have their information on Red Tube, but if you know how to find more of their stuff or if you can send me their information, I would really love to give them full credit and attribution for this awesomely educational demonstration.

I hope you enjoy this and if you have any questions about squirting, female ejaculation, the g spot, or any other sexual topic please feel free to comment here.

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A blow job should not feel like a job!

Believe me. I get it. Some days it feels like a job and some days it feels like fun. Hopefully more often fun then a job. But, the reality is that there are days when it feels like a chore. I have some tips to share with you here for those days. I like to call these my “efficient blow job” tips.

1. Use a vibrator or vibrating cock ring on his penis or balls while going down on him (On the shaft, on the torso, the testicles, all over)

2. Pay special (and very wet) attention to his testicles with your tongue while stroking the shaft of his penis at the same time.

3. Use a wet finger on the A.B.C. (ass-ball-connector) while you have your mouth on the head and your other hand on the shaft. (A good water based lube can really help with this, too.)

We have a few more and some of them are a little bit advanced (read: kinky) for our blog. But, if you would like to learn 3 or 4 more tips for giving an efficient b.j. you can buy our eBook. Our eBook is 14 pages full of tips for how to use penis rings properly. And, it includes lots of tips for giving the gourmet b.j. and additional tips for giving an efficient b.j.

Our Bliss eBook is only $4.99 and you can purchase our ebook here.

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I like to call the Hitachi Magic Wand a “back massager” and I always stress the AIR QUOTES around the words “back” and “massager.”  As long as I can remember, I’ve known about the Hitachi Magic Wand. I mean, like going back to my teenage years. In the days before I knew people used it for clitoral stimulation!

The Hitachi Magic Wand by Vibratex does look like a back massager and I am pretty sure that is what the manufacturer had in mind when they created it. But, you know how it is when you have something that vibrates in your hand. You just gotta see how it feels all over your body! And, any grown woman or teenage girl that ever puts one in her hand … well let’s just say you can see the light bulb go off over her head and her eyes light up.

The Hitachi Magic Wand plugs into the wall – just like most fantastic back massagers. Oh, and btw, this back massager -turned sex toy feels AMAZING on your back and neck. It really does. I keep one plugged in next to my couch for that very reason. No. Seriously. I have one for my back/neck and a separate one for other fun.  

I understand that you could possibly lose your “lesbian” card if you are an adult gay woman and you do not own the Magic Wand. This awesome vibe is very famous in lesiban circles. And also very often seen in adult movies where female ejaculation or “squirting” is featured.

There are a couple of reasons why I think so many millions of women love this vibrator. For starters, because the head of the massager (which sort of looks like a bulb) is so large, it does provide a larger surface area of vibration. Many women tell me that it is very intense thanks to all of the labia vibration in addition to all of the clitoral vibration. To put a fine point on it, it does vibrate a LARGE area which can be very pleasureable.

It’s also “ol reliable” because it does plug into the wall. So, for women who have difficulty having a climax – that reliable electricity provides a very steady and strong vibration. Some vibrators start off very strong when you first turn them on. As you run the vibe, some of them start to diminish in vibration strength a little bit. So, for women who sometimes need 5 to 20 minutes or longer to have a climax – the Hitachi is just the ticket.

It’s a fantastic toy for solo play or for play with a partner. I really love to coach women with serious PMS issues to spend some quality alone time with their Hiatchi Magic Wand about 2 days before their cycle starts. You will be amazed at how it can improve your cycle week. Less bitchiness. Less cramps. Much easier period. Seriously.

It’s also a fab toy for Moms! It’s discreet. It’s a freaking back massager! It does not look like a big honkin dildo so when your kids find you, you can just tell them that it’s for your neck. (And, you don’t scar them for life when they find your sex toy stash!)

Lots of women use it for masturbation laying on their backs. But I do hear from an equal amount of women who like to lay on their tummies on top of the head of the vibrator. Some women also use it along with a pillow and sort of sit on top of the vibrator almost like a “ride em cowgirl” position.

The original Hiatch Magic Wand does have a large head on it so it can be somewhat difficult to use with a male partner. But, where there is a will there is a way. But, what can be even better is the Mystic Wand also made by Vibratex. This is their answer to the size issue. And, it’s cordless.

All of the Vibratex toys are beautiful and luscious. This “personal massager” is right up there with their yummy Hitachi Magic Wand, Original Rabbit Pearl  and their Rabbit Habit. And this Mystic Wand “back massager” takes 4 AA batteries and is also splash proof. It’s sort of like the mini, travel version of the Hitachi. It’s made with 100% skin safe silicone so it has this lovely “skin” on it that makes the toy feel like a slice of luxury.  And because the head of the vibe is so much smaller – it’s a bit more ideal for sex with a man. You can have it on your clitoris while your partner inside of you and it will not get in the way. HEAVEN!

 I love to recommend both style “back massagers” to women of all ages. You just can’t go wrong. Even for women like me who own pretty much every sex toy known to man – it’s a great additon and a super reliable ORGASM every single time you power up this vibe!

Do you own a “Back Massager” type toy?

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