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People often get confused and think of sex toys as something you only use alone.  They are a fabulous way to enhance your love making TOGETHER and we are going to outline some ideas for how to use your vibrators with your guy. Obviously, they are fab for solo fun; but sex toys can REALLY amp up the intensity of partner sex. If you have a male partner that is a little bit apprenhensive about incorporating a sex toy, just do as my friend Joan Price says and tell him you’re ready for a “threesome.” You, him and B.O.B. (Battery Operated Boyfriend.)

If he is hesitant, make it all about him. Tell him you are going to use it on him to give him a porn star style b.j.  Or, tell him you will get on top and put the vibe between the two of you on your clitoris.  He will appreciate the fact that he gets to look at your face, see and touch your breasts and that you are going to do all of the work.

Sexy Ways to Use Your Sex Toy WITH Him: Sex Toys are an Appetizer, Men are the Entree

1.  While you are giving him a b.j. put the vibrator against your cheek on the outside so he can feel your mouth humming and vibrating.  Just adds a bit of tingle and a new sensation for him. (You can try the simple silver bullet for this toy.)

2. Take your panties or g-string off and wrap a bullet style vibrator in your panties and then rub the vibrator on his testicles, the shaft of his penis, all over his nipples and then maybe a little on your nipples, too. He will feel the silkiness of your panties and the vibe! FUN!

3. For men who are more comfortable with a vibrator, rub it on his testicles while you are giving him oral. This can make a b.j. very efficient, ladies. (Some men finish much more quickly then normal when they have a vibe on their balls. Just saying.)

4.  For men that are super comfortable with toys, rub a little lube on the perenium (taint) and rub that area with a small vibe. Make sure he knows he can trust you not to do anything he is not comfortable with while you are in that area. (Most men describe a prostate massage as one of the most intense orgasms they have ever felt, but not all men are ready for that and NOBODY wants to be surprised in that area.) But, light vibration under the balls on that little soft spot can be very intense for them. (Have you seen the Aneros prostate massager toys for men?)

5. How about giving him a massage and tucking a small vibe into your hands while you massage his inner thighs, his back, his neck and the back of his thighs with some oil and a vibe. There is also something called a massage mitt which you can use for massage and tuck in a vibe into the mitt.

6.  While he is going down on you, have him slide a small g-spot toy like the Finger Fun into your vagina with the g-spot tip angled towards your g-spot which is on the belly button wall of your vajayjay. You will have a super intense orgasm and it will make oral on you VERY efficient. He can also tease your clitoris with it and help you to have a clitoral orgasm very quickly…. or maybe two… or three…. or four ???

7. Give up total control and give him the battery pack. Try giving him a b.j. or while he is inside of you, put it on you clitoris. Give him the control and let him turn the vibe up or down. (Very fun with the 5 speed bullet as it has 5 pulsations and escalations and can get you trembling and climaxing together!) You won’t know where he is going with it and it can really add to the anticipation and the playfulness that will make your experience that much better.

8. Tie him up or maybe just blindfold him and make it all about him for an hour or a half an hour. Get him good and relaxed and touch every inch of his body with your hands, tongue and body…but occasionally slide a vibrator on low on his more sensitve areas…. but avoid touching his penis for a little while. Have fun watching his penis twitch, get hard, relax,  get hard and repeat. You can get a feel for which sensations he REALLY likes and which sensations he really DOES NOT like by watching the reaction of his penis. FILE THIS AWAY ladies!  Good info for later. (A fun toy for this type of play is the Mystic Wand. It’s truly a cordless back massager and it’s got 7 speeds and some of them are very low which can be nice for this kind of exploration.)

9. Last but not least, find your favorite toy in your dirty drawer and give it to him. Let me know you want a little warm up with your fave toy, but you want to include him. Have him strip down, lay next to you, cradle your back or neck with one of his arms so you are face to face and able to make out. He has the toy in his other hand and can use it on you while still feeling like is a part of the process. (Though some men love to be in the “catchers” position up close and personal with the toy and your clitoris.) It’s a great way to feel very connected when you are using a toy with your lover.

For women, a small vibrator on their clitoris is pretty much a guaranteed orgasm.  Our BONUS TIP #10. When you are making love, put a small bullet on her clitoris while she is on her back, or while you are having sex doggy style, or on her side, her on top, reverse cowgirl.. you name it, it works. She gets the benefit of a clitoral orgasm from penetration which rarely happens. He gets the bonus of knowing she had an orgasm so he does not have to worry and ask that dreaded question. And, when a woman climaxes, her vagina contracts and tightens down on the penis and can really enhance his experience! It’s a WIN WIN!

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Blissfully, Chrystal Bougon

Sex Toy Expert

Here are some fun NAUGHTY COCKTAILS for you to use for your pleasure party or other occasions in the future. I also put the Better then Sex Chocolate Cake at the bottom of this sheet.

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Knock You Naked Margarita

12 oz frozen limeade

12 oz of 7 up

12 oz of tequila

12 oz Corona

Mix together and serve like a martini or cosmo. I like the salted rims, but then I prefer margaritas with salt.

Citron My Face (my book club’s favorite)

12 oz Vodka (Citron Vodka)

18 oz Sprite

12 oz Sweet & Sour Mixer

6-8 oz Cranberry Juice

Mix all together and serve!

Get Lei’d
3/4 oz Raspberry Pucker liqueur
1 oz Vodka
6 oz Pineapple juice
1 splash Cranberry juice Pink Panty Dropper Punch
1 750ml bottle of vodka (a fifth)
3 oz Lemon juice or 1 can of lemonade concentrate
9 oz jar of maraschino cherries
2 L Sprite
Pour it all, including the juice from the cherry jar into a punch bowl and serve. Wear a belt.

Hawaiian Screw
* 2 oz Vodka
* Orange juice
* Pineapple juice
Mixing instructions:
pour over ice in regular glass. Add pineapple and orange juice to taste. Sort of like a regular screwdriver except with a tropical twist!

Coochy
2 parts light rum
1 part triple sec
2 parts pineapple juice
blend, serve in exotic glass with a (what else) cherry Pink Panty Droppers
Ingredients:
Ice cubes
1/2 oz Rum (Bacardi)
1/2 oz Vodka (Absolut)
1/2 oz Gin (Tanqueray)
1/4 oz Triple sec
1 splash Cranberry juice
1 splash Pineapple juice
Mixing instructions:
Shake drink in a regular shaker. Garnish with a cherry

Kumoniwannalaya
Ingredients:
2 oz Gin
1/2 oz Triple sec

Fuzzy Hoo Ha Punch

2 firm ripe peaches or a bag of frozen peaches ½ cup peach schnappes 1/3 cup superfine granulated sugar 3 Cups of chilled rose wine (750 ml bottle) 2 cups chilled sparkling water Stir together the peaches, schnappes, and suger in a large Pitcher until sugar is dissolved an let stand 1 hour. Stir in wine, sparkling water and maybe a little ice. Frozen peaches can work as ice. You can use fresh Peaches when they are in season.

Schlong Island Iced Tea

1 part vodka
1 part tequila
1 part rum
1 part gin
1 part triple sec
1 1/2 parts sweet and sour mix
1 splash Coca-Cola®

Mix ingredients together over ice in a glass. Pour into a shaker and give one brisk shake. Pour back into the glass and make sure there is a touch of fizz at the top. Garnish with lemon. BETTER THAN SEX CHOCOLATE CAKE: 1 (18 1/2 oz.) pkg. German chocolate cake mix
1 c. semi-sweet chocolate chips
1/2 (14 oz.) can sweetened condensed milk
1/2 jar caramel sauce
12 oz. carton frozen whipped topping, thawed
3 Heath bars, crushed Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Grease and flour 9x13x2 inch pan. Prepare cake mix as directed on package; pour into prepared pan. After 10 minutes of baking, sprinkle with chocolate chips. Continue baking until cake is done While cake is still hot, poke holes in it with handle of wooden spoon. Pour sweetened condensed milk over cake; let cool. Top with caramel sauce, then whipped topping. Sprinkle with candy bars. 12 to 16 servings

MORE NAUGHTY COCKTAIL RECIPES:

Sextini

Stoli Vanilla
Bailey’s
Amaretto
Garnish w/a cherry

Blow Job
¼ oz Bailey’s Irish Cream
½ oz Butterscotch liqueur
Pour liqueurs into a shot glass, top w/whipped cream.

Sex On The Beach
1 shot vodka
1 shot peach schnapps
Orange juice
Cranberry juice

Sex With The Captain
½ oz Amaretto
½ oz Captain Morgan’s Spiced Rum
½ oz Peach Schnapps
Splash of Cranberry Juice
Splash of Orange Juice
Shake w/ice, strain into glass

Pink Pussy Cat
1 ½ oz Vodka
Pineapple or Grapefruit Juice
Grenadine
Pour vodka into glass of ice, add juice, grenadine to color.

Buttery Nipple Shot
1 oz Butterscotch Schnapps layered
1 oz Baileys Screaming Orgasm
2 oz Amaretto
2 oz Coffee Liqueur
2 oz light Cream
2 oz Vodka
Shake, strain into lowball glass.

Strip and Go Naked
24 oz Vodka
12 Beer
3 Cans Pink Lemonade

Flirtini
1 oz vodka
2 oz champagne
2 oz pineapple juice

Who does that? Who buys sex toys as Christmas gifts or Hanukkah gifts? You might be surprised… many thousands of people do! Have you been naughty or nice this year? Wouldn’t you just be super duper excited if someone bought you a sex toy for Christmas? I know I would.

Everyone loves a great lover, right? And everyone loves a great deal. So, this blog is all about some fun ideas for Stocking Stuffers for your Secret (or not so secret) Santa or Mrs. Claus… or maybe for Santa’s little helpers.

In case you do not want to read my entire blog and you are itching to go and buy a sex toy for your lover – our Cyber Monday coupon code is Monday2 – just put that in at the end of the order process and it will give you 20% off and free shipping on purchases over $45.

For starters, the Fuzzy Love Cuffs make a naughty gift for thatpecial someone you want to get naughty with. Nothing says I LOVE YOU like some light S&M gear.

Maybe you want to buy a NICE gift for your naughty little elf. You can buy your sweetie a rabbit or bullet to show how much you really care about thier sexual pleasure. My all time favorite bullet ever is the 5 Speed Bullet. And, my second favorite toy ever is the Original Pearl Rabbit from Vibratex. (This is the rabbit that was made famous by that now infamous episode of “Sex & The City” on HBO. I guarantee this will make for THE BEST post Christmas sex you have ever had. She will want to show her appreciation for your generosity.

At our home pleasure parties, I often hear women buying some of the more polite products for the standard bullet for the close girlfriends. You B.F.F. will go a back flip when she opens her especially sexy silver bullet or the edible massage oil you bought her.

The chocolate body frosting from Kama Sutra and the Dirty Dice make great stocking stuffers. So do the blow job vouchers and the doggy style strap.

What about pairing the edible massage oil with a hand made erotic massage coupon? I can imagine everyone I know would LOVE to receive that gift.

Check out our online store www.BlissConnection.com and see if soemthing sexy inspires you. Spend $45 an we pay the ground shipping. Want to connect with us on Facebook?  You can find us on Facebook at www.Facebook.com/BlissConnection and on Twitter @BlissConnection

Happy Holidays and HO HO HO!

Blissfully, Chrystal

Sex Toy Expert / Chief Toy Officer for BlissConnection.com

Some of you have probably heard me get on my soap box about all of the really crummy ingredients some of the lube companies put in their lubricants. It really gets my feathers ruffled! I mean – hellooooo! We are putting this lube inside of our vaginas people. I could go on for hours about the negative stuff, but I choose to focus on the positive and teach my fans and customers about BODY SAFE products that are healthy and 100% safe. (And, if you have an opinion about lube, please share it on my Bliss fan page this week so we can incoporate it into our show. Bliss on Facebook.)

I am excited to introduce you all to Blossom Organics.  And check this out. Blossom Organics also makes a sensual cream that can turn your monthly breast exam into something that does not have to be 100% clinical. What a great idea. And, in honor of breast cancer awareness month – they are donating to the Breast Cancer Fund when their customers purchase this cream. Now that is brilliant.

The below information is from Blossom-Organics.com. Tune in this Wednesday the 26th at 11 a.m. Pacific as we talk lube and boobs!  www.BlogTalkRadio.com/BlissRadio

For over 20 years, Blossom Organics Founder, Melissa Jochim, has successfully developed safe, naturally pure organic skincare products for known and trusted brands. Expanding from her initial focus in skincare, she was shocked to see the lack of authentically natural, female-friendly products in the intimate care market. Although many products claim to be “natural,” “organic” and “safe,” Melissa’s passion drove her to achieve a higher standard through the formulation of Blossom Organics Intimate Care Collection.

In pursuit of healthy well-being, beautiful intimacy and blissful pleasure, Blossom Organics creates safe, naturally pure intimate care products. Melissa’s story resonates with so many mindful women that we at Blossom Organics want everyone to experience the pure pleasure of allowing their sensuality to blossom.

http://www.blossom-organics.com/

We have chosen to demonstrate its support of the Breast Cancer Fund’s ground breaking work by creating Revitalizing Breast Cream. We donate $5 from every purchase of its Revitalizing Breast Cream to the Breast Cancer Fund. In recognition of the Peak Hike and the upcoming Breast Cancer Awareness Month, Blossom Organics is sponsoring special discounted pricing for its Revitalizing Breast Cream at select retailers for the month of October.

http://www.blossom-organics.com/intimate-care-collection/revitalizing-breast-exam-cream/

www.breastcancerfund.org

Blow jobs, penis rings, deep throating and more all covered in my 14 page e-book. The reality is that some days we have time to give the gourmet b.j. and other times we don’t. I know guys hate to hear the words “efficient” and “b.j.” in the same sentence. But, I like to say to men, isn’t it better to receive an efficient b.j. then NO b.j.?  

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So, we gathered all of our best tips from all of our pleasure parties and our own personal experience and created a 14 page book full of tips for giving a gourmet blow job and an efficient blow job, too.

We also cover all of the Penis Ring 101 basics and teach you how to prep “the area” for a penis ring. We even included some techniques for giving deep oral sex. I wrote this e-book with lots of love and with fun in mind. Sex is supposed to be fun! Oral sex, too.

We are offering a full money back guarantee with our e-book, too. If you are not 100% satisfied, we are happy to refund your $4.99. Just send us an email and let us know you are not happy with it or did not learn anything new. We want you to be happy.

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Will my husband be offended if I ask him to f*** me harder?

Does it mean I am gay if I like a finger up my butt?

Don’t we pee from our clitoris?

Where is my clitoris?

Does saliva kill sperm? I heard if you give a blow job first the saliva can kill or slow down the swimmers.

Is it rude to run to the bathroom and spit out his ejaculate?

Will my boyfriend be mad if I use my sex toy after we have sex?

Can I give my girlfriend my sex toys that I don’t use any more?

I have a great sex life. Why would I need a vibrator? I mean, I have never had an orgasm before but I have a great sex life.

Is it strange for a husband and wife to only have sex once a year or less?

Ok, party people, tell us the other funny questions you have heard at a Pleasure Party?

Here at Bliss, we do pleasure parties in San Jose and most of the Bay Area. Give us a call and we’ll tell you more about our home sex toy parties. Tel: 408-712-3809  or email us at BlissConnection@Gmail.com to get on our calendar.

Want to learn more about our pleasure parties in San Jose? You can check out our pleasure party website or check out our online sex toy store!

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Condoms create such interesting discussions at our home pleasure parties. It’s my feeling that if you have a deep love and respect for yourself, you will always use condoms for sex with new partners.

Where the debate comes in, sometimes, is when we discuss how men feel about a woman showing up to the date with condoms in her purse. Apparently, some men still believe that a woman who brings her own condoms is trampy our slutty.

I am really hoping this old fashioned way of thinking is quickly going away. And, if it were me and the man I was dating had some kind of silly notion about a woman and condoms – well I am pretty sure that would be the last date and he would likely never get to see or use said condoms.

I think that a man who dates a woman that brings her own condoms should feel like the luckiest man on earth. He’s on a date with a woman who knows her value and a woman that had deep love for her own health and his.

On top of that, when both parties do not have to stress about STD’s or STI’s, then everyone can relax and have a great time. I think it’s super hot that my partner cares about my health and wants to put my mind at rest when we are in an intimate situation.

What do you think? Do you bring your own condoms on a date ladies? Gentlemen, what do you think of women who bring their own condoms on a date with you?

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We do our Bliss style of Pleasure Parties all over San Jose and beyond. And, we’ve been doing them for almost 9 years now. Typically, our hostesses invite us to their home for their pleasure party. But, over the years we have facilitated our pleasure parties all over the Bay Area and in all sorts of venues. We’ve done our parties at spas, boutiques, beauty supply stores, bars, lounges, med spas, and lots of other places.

We are also very lucky to have an awesome and synergistic partner in Sedusa Studios – which is a Pole Dance studio in Campbell, on the Los Gatos border. The owner, Carol, and I have been friends for about 7 or 8 years now and we have always supported each other’s businesses over the years. Last year, I moved my business office upstairs at Sedusa at Carol’s invitation. It’s a great fit for my business and we LOVE telling all of our customers and friends about Sedusa’s Pole Dance and Sensual Dance lessons. (They also have pole fitness classes; burlesque dance classes; vidoe vixen classes and so much more. (Call Sedusa directly if you want more information. 408-867-2224.)

Sedusa also does Girls’ Night events at their beautiful studio. Sedusa offers a Girls’ Night party at their beautiful studio on Friday and Saturday nights. Cost: They do small parties and large events. If you have a smaller party (fewer than 10 women) the price is only a flat rate of $350. If yours is a large party and you have 10 or more girlfriends, the cost is $35 per woman. When the timing and scheduling can work out, we can also do a mini Bliss pleasure party after your group is done with your sensual dance lesson. (This takes some coordinating, so give Sedusa or Bliss a call and we can see if we can make it work. Bliss is 408-712-3809.)

Another option we have is that Sedusa has graciously offered their venue on Sunday afternoons / evenings if you want to host a Bliss party at the studio. The rental fee is $50 and as long as we check with their calendar and you host your party at 3:30 pm or after on a Sunday, you can book your Bliss party at Sedusa.  The $50 deposit is due to Sedusa 2 weeks before the party and payable to Sedusa.

If your group wants to have a one hour sensual dance lesson from Sedusa on a Sunday, we can also add the dance lesson for $25 a person with a minimum of 10 women. There are lots of options! Just give Carol at Sedusa a call (408-867-2224) or give us a call at Bliss and we can work out all kinds of fun! You can call Bliss at 408-712-3809.

Either way, we will make sure the event is memorable for your guest of honor and for you and your friends – no matter if there is a special occasion or not. As you may know, Bliss sets up a FULL STORE in your home when do a pleasure party at your place. The same thing happens at pleasure party we do at Sedusa. We will set up our mobile romance store in the pilates studio at the dance studio. That allows everyone to shop privately and to take their romance goodies home the day of the party.

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We all want to bring more Bliss to our Bedroom, right? Pleasure Parties by Bliss is hosting a special seminar all about penis rings, the gourmet blow job and some other special tips that we hope will bring more Bliss to your boudoir.

Sept 1st from 6:45 to 8:30 pm in downtown Campbell. (Venue details shared once you RSVP.)

Everything you ever wanted to know about penis rings and how to use them. Why women enjoy penis rings and what they can do for us. Why men enjoy cock rings and what they can do for them. And then how to use them together! Penis rings come in all kinds of shapes and sizes. This is just one example of a penis ring. Join us to learn all about penis rings, how they work, how to put one on him without hurting him and all of the fun benefits of using one. We will even show you some of the new vibrating penis rings. All of this in a format where you can ask questions and talk openly about how to use these toys to bring more Bliss to your bedroom. And this is all sponsored by Pleasure Parties by Bliss!

Additionally, we will cover how to make a b.j. more efficient and also share some gourmet blow job tips, too! If there’s time, we will also demonstrate some hand job techniques. (And, we will have some Bliss items on hand to purchase that night, too. Or even just to browse in case you are not familiar with sex toys.)

This seminar is for women only. There will be no nudity.  RSVP HERE:

$10 to attend if you PAY NOW. $20 at the door. NO REFUNDS, but you can replace yourself if you cannot attend. Free gift when you arrive for everyone who pays by Aug 29th. I will provide some light snacks and some wine, too.

This seminar is sponsored by Bliss Pleasure Parties and the seminar will be in downtown Campbell on Campbell Ave. The exact address emailed to you after you pay to hold your spot. The venue is walking distance to Katie Blooms, Aqui and Sonoma Chicken Coop if you want to have a Swirl or a beer before you join us for our seminar.

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Sex toys: which one is right for me?  I get asked this all of the time. And, I am a big believer in finding the sex toy that is right for each person. I know sometimes the media will try to convince you that you should buy a rabbit, or a dolphin or the one I hear alot is the pocket rocket. (And, sidebar, barf on the pocket rocket. I know Howard Stern loves to promote it. But, it’s only ON or OFF and if you’re tryint to use it with a partner ….. it just does not work.) But, I think it’s important to find out some things about a person and their relationship and how they plan to use it most often before I recommend one.

Do you plan to use the toy alone or with a partner most of the time?

Have you had a sex toy before?

Have you had an orgasm before?

Do orgasms happen for your easily or do you have to put alot of thought into them?

What kind of sex toy have you used in the past?

Do you plan to use the toy for foreplay or during intercourse?

Do you like toys that give you insertion or just clitoral stimulation?

I tend to suggest small and inexpensive for newbies to sex toys. I also like to recommend toys that are not very intimidating to look at to new users. For some people, a big honkin penis shaped dildo is not the place to start.  I do like the bullet style toys for newbies. Here is a blog I wrote in 2010 about Sex Toys for Beginners. An article I wrote years ago called “Is the Rabbit Sex Toy Right For You” might also be helpful if you’re considering making a larger investment.

I also like toys that couples can integrate into their bedroom fun where the male partner does not feel replaced; toys that make him feel like his presence is being enhanced. Here is a list of 5 sex toys for newbies that I wrote recently, too.

And, just as a shout out to our Bliss Pleasure Parties or other pleasure party plans out there. Part of the beauty of a home pleasure party is the ability to see, touch, feel and check out in depth lots and lots of toys in the comfort of your home. Most people are not comfortable talking to the sales clerk at an adult store with a big sampling of toys laid out on the counter because there is no privacy. But, at a home pleasure party you get that extra bit of privacy and a super educational presentation that explains all of the toys.

Our parties are so much fun and a great evening for a girls’ night in or a Mom’s Night Out.