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People get piercings for all kinds of reasons, but with body and genital piercings there’s usually one reason that trumps the others: they like the way they feel. Let’s face it, it’s not like you are going to get your nipple pierced because you want to show off your new jewelry at the office. (Well, not most offices, anyway!) Piercings are like sex toys you can have with you all the time. Best of all, no one has to know! Sexual stimulation comes in all forms, which is why Bliss Connection celebrates any safe practice that rocks your world – including piercings!

Different piercings bring new sexual excitement depending on the area of the body.  Tongue piercings take oral sex to a whole new level, giving both men and women totally different sensations. Freezing a tongue piercing with an ice cube or sucking on a strong mint ahead of time makes it even more intense. Nipple rings are incredible for women (and men) who are turned on by nipple stimulation. And ladies, if you’ve had a few children and your nipple sensations have dropped off the charts, a nipple ring is a fun way to bring them back.

Women can pierce the clitoral hood or the inner or outer vulva, among other areas of the vagina. Clitoral hood piercings are popular for a reason: they seriously amp up the sensations. For the guys, penis piercings (some called Prince Alberts) can enhance sexual pleasure for both parties, but use caution with condoms. Guys should also be warned that some women might not like how your piercing feels. Men can pierce their penises in different locations, depending on the sensation they’re looking for.

If you’re going to pierce a sensitive area of your body, make sure it’s done by someone reputable who uses sterilized tools. Be vigilant about keeping your piercing clean, especially when it’s new, because besides the health risk, an infected piercing will put a serious damper on your sex life.  Depending on the piercing, you may have to abstain from any sexual activity for a bit in order to let the piercing heal.

Once you’re cleared for takeoff, go ahead and rock that piercing! Try out your sex toys with the new adornment, and see how it feels. Let your partner play around with it. If you’ve had piercings that have given your sex life a new spin, let us know!

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Does a truly “sure thing” exist? Oprah and Dr. Berman seem to think so, since that’s what they called the Aphrodite sex toy on “Oprah’s Best Life” series. Dr. Berman created the Aphrodite just for women who have trouble achieving orgasm – and ladies there are more women out there who are missing out than you might think! That’s a situation we’re trying to change at Bliss Connection by bringing you sex toys like the Aphrodite.

What makes the Aphrodite stand out among sex toys is that it has a warming infrared head on one side and interchangeable silicone attachments on the other. The smooth, pinpoint and nubby heads will give you a variety of sensations – play around and experiment with it to see what you like best! I love that the silicone attachments are a little bit soft and flexible, and that you can bend the head to get just the right angle. It has two speeds (low and high) but you can only use the infrared head on the low speed.

Another sweet thing about the Aphrodite is that the infrared heat makes it a nice all-over massager. Start with a sexy exotic massage with your partner and let the Aphrodite do its thing. If you need some tips on how to use the Aphrodite with your partner, check out this blog post about 9 Ways to Use Your Vibrator With Your Guy.

The Aphrodite is a rechargeable sex toy, so while there’s no messing around with a cumbersome cord or scrambling for fresh batteries, you have to remember to fully charge it if you don’t want the vibrator dying at a crucial moment. You’ll definitely want to give it a full 24 hours to charge up before you first try it out, and try to charge it for 12 hours between uses if you want it to perform at its best. The Aphrodite is not the quietest vibrator we carry, nor is it what I’d call petite – but that’s not necessarily a bad thing, it just depends on what you’re in the market for, and after all, Oprah called it a “sure thing!”

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What happens when a couple breaks up? Who gets “custody” of the sex toys? Do you each get to pick a favorite, or do you take back what you brought into the relationship, then divide the rest evenly? What about the toys that were gifts to each other, or the ones that are specifically intended for couples to use together? It’s a tricky question, but one worth thinking about.

I don’t know about you, but my personal collection of sex toys is worth more than gold to me. I have favorites for times when I’m solo, and others that are  just as fun with my guy! Some are amazing during foreplay, while others take intercourse into new realms and I always know just which one to reach for. Not to mention, my sex toys are among my most intimate possessions – definitely not the kind of thing I’ll be loaning to a neighbor anytime soon. So the idea of having to part ways with even part of my collection makes me squirm.

Sex toys are not just playthings (though they’re fun for play!) they are a part of your intimate relationship, too – part of your connection to your partner.  That can make it hard to figure out what to do with your toys when the relationship has gone south. If you’ve kept them clearly defined as “Mine” and “Yours” then there’s not much of an issue – take your stuff and go! It’s the shared toys that pose a bigger problem. The idea of you using those toys with a new partner might not go over very well with your ex…and you might not love the idea of your partner sharing your favorite toy with a new love interest either!

Is it even OK for women to keep the same sex toys from partner to partner? What about men – is it different for guys? How would you feel if your partner brought sex toys from a past relationship into your sex life? Would you be comfortable with that?

It would be great to have a Sex Toy Prenuptial. Spell out exactly what you’ve brought into the bedroom, and what you’re entitled to take with you. That way you avoid post-split battles and don’t risk losing your favorite toys. Hey lawyers – here’s a new specialty!

Have you had to divide your sex toys after a breakup? How did you handle the situation? For brand new toys to add to your collection, check out our online store at http://www.BlissConnection.com.

This toy is just beautiful to look at, isn’t it? It doesn’t hurt that purple is my favorite color. This is sort of a plum color, but it is gorgeous. As I said on my online store about this toy … “it’s like buttah!”  (BTW, I did also write a 5 star review for another Jopen rechargeable toy called the vr7 here. )

Jopen.com makes all of these unique looking rechargeable sex toys for women. They are all beautiful and you have to love the fact that there are no batteries required! It plugs into a little plug that looks like a cell phone charger. Purrfect!

I love pretty much all style of “twice as nice” toys which are the style of toys that give you a little bit of penetration and clitoral stimulation all in one toy. Let’s face it. We need clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm most times. And, this toy provides just that. And I love that the Jopen line is waterproof and super quiet. And, my favorite way to clean this toy and all of my own personal sex toys is with an unscented baby wipes! (And here is a blog that I wrote with some tips for helping your sex toys to last longer.)

So, to the toy. Ok, I am giving it 5 stars out of 5 stars. I wish it were more affordable, but it is a luxurious sex toy and worth every penny if you have the budget.  When you first receive it, it only takes 4 hours to give it a full charge and the charge lasts forever and ever. Seriously impressed. Much better charge then my damn droid cell phones from Verizon.

This toy is great for Moms and people who have roommates because it is one of the quietest toys I have ever used. And, I know the sound level of some toys can actually make it difficult for women to climax. Many times, when you get a toy with a clit stimulator, they can get REALLY loud…. especially when you are pushing it down on your clitoris. Not this one! Love that. I think the women who desiged the Jopen toys have kids at home maybe. And I love how flexy and bendy the beautiful clitoral stimulator is on this toy. You can do all kind of positions and gyrations with this super bendy “musical note” looking vibrator!

Your partner can have you in their arms and have the toy in their hands using it softly all over your body and can continue to make out with you or kiss you all over while using the toy all over. When the time is right, they can begin using it all over your inner thighs and go from there to the really good bits!

Something that is also very unique about the Jopen.com toys is their warranty. All of Jopen.com ‘s toys have a 1 year warranty and an optional 10 year guarantee. That is pretty amazing and super cool given that this toy is on the high end side of life when it comes to sex toys.

You can buy the Jopen vr5 from Bliss and use the coupon code VIP for 15% off this luxury sex toy.

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Ladies, would you ever pay for a massage with a “happy ending?” Would you walk into a massage parlor and ask for a little something extra? A sexy masseuse is the stuff fantasies are made of, but if most of you ladies are like me, you’d have some requirements. Not just any masseuse would do! He’d have to look good, smell yummy, and (of course) be willing to give an incredible 2-hour full body massage before moving on to the happy ending!

Men have been getting “happy ending” massages – a massage that ends with an orgasm – for eons. It’s often an “off the menu” practice in certain massage parlors (and not necessarily legal, depending on your state). They even review them online – in case you’re looking for the best in your neighborhood! It’s hard to know how much is truth and how much is fiction, but I guarantee you that if you ask any man you know, he’ll be able to tell you which local parlors offer a happy ending massage.

Men aren’t the only ones who need some bliss, but would women pay for that kind of service? It isn’t something that is talked about for women the way it is for men. Do you remember the Sex and the City Episode where Samantha gets a surprisingly satisfying foot massage? That’s one of the few references I’ve seen to a woman getting a happy ending from her massage.

Ideally, you and your partner could create your own happy ending scenario with an intimate erotic massage.  What a fabulous opportunity for a little role-playing! Get out the scented and flavored massage oils, light some candles and get creative – go for a spa-like ambiance.  If you want a little bit of guidance, try an erotic massage technique book for some inspiration.

If you’re looking to add to your toy collection for happy endings every time, check out our online store at http://www.BlissConnection.com.

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People often get confused and think of sex toys as something you only use alone.  They are a fabulous way to enhance your love making TOGETHER and we are going to outline some ideas for how to use your vibrators with your guy. Obviously, they are fab for solo fun; but sex toys can REALLY amp up the intensity of partner sex. If you have a male partner that is a little bit apprenhensive about incorporating a sex toy, just do as my friend Joan Price says and tell him you’re ready for a “threesome.” You, him and B.O.B. (Battery Operated Boyfriend.)

If he is hesitant, make it all about him. Tell him you are going to use it on him to give him a porn star style b.j.  Or, tell him you will get on top and put the vibe between the two of you on your clitoris.  He will appreciate the fact that he gets to look at your face, see and touch your breasts and that you are going to do all of the work.

Sexy Ways to Use Your Sex Toy WITH Him: Sex Toys are an Appetizer, Men are the Entree

1.  While you are giving him a b.j. put the vibrator against your cheek on the outside so he can feel your mouth humming and vibrating.  Just adds a bit of tingle and a new sensation for him. (You can try the simple silver bullet for this toy.)

2. Take your panties or g-string off and wrap a bullet style vibrator in your panties and then rub the vibrator on his testicles, the shaft of his penis, all over his nipples and then maybe a little on your nipples, too. He will feel the silkiness of your panties and the vibe! FUN!

3. For men who are more comfortable with a vibrator, rub it on his testicles while you are giving him oral. This can make a b.j. very efficient, ladies. (Some men finish much more quickly then normal when they have a vibe on their balls. Just saying.)

4.  For men that are super comfortable with toys, rub a little lube on the perenium (taint) and rub that area with a small vibe. Make sure he knows he can trust you not to do anything he is not comfortable with while you are in that area. (Most men describe a prostate massage as one of the most intense orgasms they have ever felt, but not all men are ready for that and NOBODY wants to be surprised in that area.) But, light vibration under the balls on that little soft spot can be very intense for them. (Have you seen the Aneros prostate massager toys for men?)

5. How about giving him a massage and tucking a small vibe into your hands while you massage his inner thighs, his back, his neck and the back of his thighs with some oil and a vibe. There is also something called a massage mitt which you can use for massage and tuck in a vibe into the mitt.

6.  While he is going down on you, have him slide a small g-spot toy like the Finger Fun into your vagina with the g-spot tip angled towards your g-spot which is on the belly button wall of your vajayjay. You will have a super intense orgasm and it will make oral on you VERY efficient. He can also tease your clitoris with it and help you to have a clitoral orgasm very quickly…. or maybe two… or three…. or four ???

7. Give up total control and give him the battery pack. Try giving him a b.j. or while he is inside of you, put it on you clitoris. Give him the control and let him turn the vibe up or down. (Very fun with the 5 speed bullet as it has 5 pulsations and escalations and can get you trembling and climaxing together!) You won’t know where he is going with it and it can really add to the anticipation and the playfulness that will make your experience that much better.

8. Tie him up or maybe just blindfold him and make it all about him for an hour or a half an hour. Get him good and relaxed and touch every inch of his body with your hands, tongue and body…but occasionally slide a vibrator on low on his more sensitve areas…. but avoid touching his penis for a little while. Have fun watching his penis twitch, get hard, relax,  get hard and repeat. You can get a feel for which sensations he REALLY likes and which sensations he really DOES NOT like by watching the reaction of his penis. FILE THIS AWAY ladies!  Good info for later. (A fun toy for this type of play is the Mystic Wand. It’s truly a cordless back massager and it’s got 7 speeds and some of them are very low which can be nice for this kind of exploration.)

9. Last but not least, find your favorite toy in your dirty drawer and give it to him. Let me know you want a little warm up with your fave toy, but you want to include him. Have him strip down, lay next to you, cradle your back or neck with one of his arms so you are face to face and able to make out. He has the toy in his other hand and can use it on you while still feeling like is a part of the process. (Though some men love to be in the “catchers” position up close and personal with the toy and your clitoris.) It’s a great way to feel very connected when you are using a toy with your lover.

For women, a small vibrator on their clitoris is pretty much a guaranteed orgasm.  Our BONUS TIP #10. When you are making love, put a small bullet on her clitoris while she is on her back, or while you are having sex doggy style, or on her side, her on top, reverse cowgirl.. you name it, it works. She gets the benefit of a clitoral orgasm from penetration which rarely happens. He gets the bonus of knowing she had an orgasm so he does not have to worry and ask that dreaded question. And, when a woman climaxes, her vagina contracts and tightens down on the penis and can really enhance his experience! It’s a WIN WIN!

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Blissfully, Chrystal Bougon

Sex Toy Expert

Enthusiasm is everyone’s favorite sexual technique and this is especially true when it comes to oral sex! At Bliss, we do offer HOME Blow Job classes and we also do a b.j. group class about once a quarter here in the Bay Area. (More about our blow job home parties here.)

Here are some of the tips we share in our blow job ebook. This 16 page ebook teaches you how to give a gourmet blow job, how to give an efficient blow job and the how and why women LOVE cock rings! (And a little penis ring 101 so you know how to use it when you buy one.)

If you would like to buy our “Blow Job e-book” the link is here and the blow job book is only $4.99 and I do have a money back guarantee. If you’re not happy with it, I will be happy to refund your money, too.   Blow Job e-book purchase here:  http://www.blisspartiesinc.com/eBook___Gourmet.html

How to give a gourmet blow job:

1.  Like with all really great sex, enthusiasm is the HOTTEST technique you can bring to your blow job for your lover. Everyone can tell when you are NOT enjoying yourself orally.

2.  Set the mood and the room. Make sure you can be comfortable for a good 20 minutes. We are talking about total worship of his penis and balls. Get cozy and plan on prolonging the b.j.

3.  Make out with his penis. For women, making out and dry humping gets us super turned on. For men, you making out and orally worshipping his cock gets him super turned on.

4.  Your tongue is the strongest muscle in your body. Use it. And use it well. Use it all over and use it with varying types of pressure. When you are using your mouth on his penis, be sure to remember to get your tongue moving around alot, too.

5.  Be sure your mouth is VERY wet. Sometimes brushing your teeth and tongue - especially if you can really get your toothbrush to the back of your throat – that can help your mouth start to salivate. And if you get the penis or the toothbrush way to the back of your throat – it does help to bring up that VERY thick saliva which can make the b.j. very sloppy and fun.

Want to learn more blow job tips? Tune in to http://www.blogtalkradio.com/talkinginthedark as we talk all things ORAL SEX at 6 p.m. Pacific on January 1oth.

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Blissfully, Chrystal Bougon

Good fortune? Being very prolific or speedy? YES! All of the above. But how about a Jack Rabbit that is also waterproof and made with silicone? How about a Jack Rabbit that is cordless and whisper quiet? (People always ask me why so many sex toys have a rabbit on them. I tell them my guess is that they chose the rabbit because they are so prolific… and that’s a polite way of saying horny.)

Well it was my good fortune to get a sample of the new Silicone Jack Rabbit from Cal Exotics as part of their Sex Toy Expert blogging program. So, yaaaaa for rabbits and good fortune!

At our home Bliss pleasure parties, I do get asked often about toys that women (and especially Moms) can use in the shower or the hot tub. Sometimes the bathroom is the only place we can get any real privacy and ME time, right? And, many women have been in love / lust with their rabbits over the years and have been excitedly awaiting a waterproof rabbit that is well made, provides enough vibration and is quiet enough that it will not sound like there is a leaf blower in their bathroom.

I love the skin on this rabbit. It’s silicone so it feels very velvety and very luxurious. I do not really get the reverse rotation button on this toy, but the other features are fab. (I have noticed that several rabbit style toys have this “clockwise/counter clockwise” switch that lets you switch up the way the pearls rotate. I never really understood the joy in that, but apparantly some women like it.

 If you are a follower of my blog or my Facebook posts, you may know that I love the 5 Speed Bullet like nobody’s business. I love it because I love the 5 speeds of pulsation and escalation. This Silicone Jack Rabbit also has pulsations and escalations. Weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee! 7 speeds to be exact.  And, because it takes 3 AAA batteries, MORE POWER! (Well, enough power. Not quite as much power as the 9v battery in the 5 Speed Bullet - but enough power to get’er done.)

This rabbit is about 5″ of insertable shaft and about 1.75″ of girth. From tip to the bottom of the battery pack, I would say the toy is about 10″ long. It’s also much lighter then the Waterproof Jack Rabbit from Cal Exotics which can get very heavy in your hand if you use it for an extended amount of time. I know it may sound strange, but it is something you need to give some thought to when you are buying a sex toy. Your arm can get fatigued when the toy is super heavy. This silicone jack rabbit is nice and light and super quiet – even with three batteries powering the motor.

I think this toy may stay in my shower caddy!

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Blissfully, Chrystal Bougon

Who does that? Who buys sex toys as Christmas gifts or Hanukkah gifts? You might be surprised… many thousands of people do! Have you been naughty or nice this year? Wouldn’t you just be super duper excited if someone bought you a sex toy for Christmas? I know I would.

Everyone loves a great lover, right? And everyone loves a great deal. So, this blog is all about some fun ideas for Stocking Stuffers for your Secret (or not so secret) Santa or Mrs. Claus… or maybe for Santa’s little helpers.

In case you do not want to read my entire blog and you are itching to go and buy a sex toy for your lover – our Cyber Monday coupon code is Monday2 – just put that in at the end of the order process and it will give you 20% off and free shipping on purchases over $45.

For starters, the Fuzzy Love Cuffs make a naughty gift for thatpecial someone you want to get naughty with. Nothing says I LOVE YOU like some light S&M gear.

Maybe you want to buy a NICE gift for your naughty little elf. You can buy your sweetie a rabbit or bullet to show how much you really care about thier sexual pleasure. My all time favorite bullet ever is the 5 Speed Bullet. And, my second favorite toy ever is the Original Pearl Rabbit from Vibratex. (This is the rabbit that was made famous by that now infamous episode of “Sex & The City” on HBO. I guarantee this will make for THE BEST post Christmas sex you have ever had. She will want to show her appreciation for your generosity.

At our home pleasure parties, I often hear women buying some of the more polite products for the standard bullet for the close girlfriends. You B.F.F. will go a back flip when she opens her especially sexy silver bullet or the edible massage oil you bought her.

The chocolate body frosting from Kama Sutra and the Dirty Dice make great stocking stuffers. So do the blow job vouchers and the doggy style strap.

What about pairing the edible massage oil with a hand made erotic massage coupon? I can imagine everyone I know would LOVE to receive that gift.

Check out our online store www.BlissConnection.com and see if soemthing sexy inspires you. Spend $45 an we pay the ground shipping. Want to connect with us on Facebook?  You can find us on Facebook at www.Facebook.com/BlissConnection and on Twitter @BlissConnection

Happy Holidays and HO HO HO!

Blissfully, Chrystal

Sex Toy Expert / Chief Toy Officer for BlissConnection.com

Are you holding back in the bedroom? What is it going to take for you to finally just surrender and let go?

Are you waiting to lose that last 10 lbs or baby fat? Are you waiting until you finally start going to yoga three times a week or running 10 miles a week? Are you waiting for those stretch marks to go away or are you waiting until you go and get that long over due pedicure?

Stop waiting! It’s time. SURRENDER! Let go. Leave it all somewhere safe – I promise the negative self talk and all of the doubt will wait. Lock it up and put it somewhere and let your hair down, girl! Having a great sex life means you have to stop doubting yourself and stop picking yourself apart. I promise if he has an erection, he is likely not noticing your saggy breasts or your cellulite!

One of the keys to having a great sex life is letting go of all of that negative self talk. And, stop comparing yourself to other women or other couples. You are you! Only you can do what you do the way you do it. You are your own special sauce. If he was not into something about you he probably would not be in a bed with you. Right?

Ok, so now go find those panties, lingerie or costume and go put it on. ROCK HIS WORLD. People remember how you make them feel not how you looked while doing it. SERIOUSLY. You know all of this already. Why aren’t you practicing it? Why are you holding back and being a “good girl” in the bedroom? Stop letting the media and all of that crap you brought up learning about what a lady does or does not do. I am not suggesting you let your class go out the window. You can be classy and dirty at the same time. FOR REAL!

Sex is such a fabulous way to stay connected to your partner. I know for me, when I feel like I could possibly commit a homicidal act against my partner and I want to wring his neck – I just take a deep breath and remember “this too shall pass.”  And, I find that when we make up and get back together in bed it reminds me how much I actually really do like him.

As one of my good friends says “stop buying what the media is selling” and remember that for every man that loves a size 2 there is an equal amount of men who love a size 22. For every man who loves DDD breasts there are an equal amount of men who love an A cup. (Yes, some men DO NOT like super big boobs. Seriously. They are turned off by them. No joke!)

I know I say it a lot, but you are PERFECT exactly the way you are. Especially when you believe that and LOVE yourself for exactly how you look RIGHT NOW. And, when you have that kind of confidence in the bedroom and you just stay in the moment and surrender to the act – you both will go places you have never been before.

If you are already fabulous at all of this kind of stuff and you know how to help us all to let go of the crap that the media and society brainwashes us into believing – please share your tips and tactics here. We’re all a work in progress and I know I can sometimes doubt myself, too. (Especially the 2 days leading up to my cycle.)  So, we all need a reminder.

My goal is that every time you worry about dimming the lights or  you get too nervous to wear that new vinyl skirt or that skimpy thong for him – you hear my voice in your head saying to you “GO FOR IT. YOU ARE PERFECT! GET GREEDY! Go rock his world!”

Blissfully,

Chrystal Bougon

www.Facebook.com/BlissConnection

My passion is your passion. I am the Chief Toy Officer for www.BlissConnection.com and I love to help women and couples to have mind blowing sex!