Sex Toys for Newbies: From time to time my customers or fans email me questions about some pretty serious stuff related to their sex life. Today I received one via Facemail from a woman who searched sex expert on Facebook and found me. She is 26 and has never had an orgasm. She gave me permission to share her question after removing her personal information:

“I’m writing because I’ve never been able to have an orgasm, either by myself or with a partner. Is that normal? I?ve recently started dating a new man and I’m afraid that this will affect our relationship. If you can offer any advice, I would really appreciate it! I am in love and the sex is great, but I just cannot climax. What do you suggest?”

Orgasms can be elusive for lots of women. I applaud her being so self-aware and seeking out answers.  The answer I sent her was pretty long and comprehensive and we went back and forth quite a bit. In the end, since she has never tried a sex toy before, I suggested she try out the Silver Bullet or the “Magic Bullet” as some people call it.  I also recommended she talk with her Gynecologist and maybe even talk with the other women in her family to see if they also have difficulty. My research is not scientific, but these types of things seem to run in families from what I can tell.

I am sure I sometimes sound like a broken record, but the silver bullet vibrator is such a perfect little sex toy. There are bigger, better, more powerful, and prettier. But, seriously the silver bullet clitoral stimulator is a great toy for women who are new to toys and new to orgasms.

We love to teach the 13 Ways to Use the Silver Bullet at our Pleasure Parties here in the Bay Area. In case we don’t ever get a chance to meet you at one of our pleasure parties, you can read our article about the 13 Ways to Use the Silver Bullet and maybe you will come up with some new ways, too!

We wish her luck and with her attitude and some tenacity, I think the bullet could really help her and in some women, it changes their lives. A simple little inexpensive sex toy. Perfection!

Ready to host your own pleasure party by Bliss? Call us at 408 826 9087 and book your own pleasure party. Or you can browse our very tasteful online sex toy store Blissconnection.com.

Pleasure Parties: This is such a cool review from one of our repeat Bliss Pleasure Party customers. She posted it 0n our Facebook “fan” page, too, if you want to know more about this customer visit our Facebook “Like” page.

“Well, this testimonial is long overdue but I would like to share a testimonial for Chrystal Bougon of BlissConnection.

A couple of months ago, my girlfriend and I hosted a “Bliss Pleasure Party” for our lovely fellow PTA moms. What a hoot! We had such a fun evening! Chrystal made all of the women comfortable and she was very informative with the products she had brought with her. Every one in attendance got to touch, test-drive and sample the products.

Once the presentation was over, if anyone was interested in buying products, they would accompany Chrystal to “the on-site store” (a private bedroom). Chrystal was extremely discreet and everyone left with their products in a cute little brown bag. Only the brave shared what was in their bag and EVERYONE left with a brown bag –how could you not with so many products to choose from. The products range from bubble bath, massage oils to power tools. LOL!

A good friend of mine celebrated a birthday this past weekend but is also going through a divorce. To bring some “bliss” into her life, we thought it would be a fabulous idea to get some girlfriends together for a pleasure party. We immediately contacted Chrystal but unfortunately, she was already booked for the evening. However, Chrystal sent her romance consultant, Lanna, to the party with all of the products. Lanna was Ah-mazing and she put all of the women by starting the party off with a very fun game called “Get Screwed”. We laughed so hard all night long – my jaw and belly hurts from laughing so much.

If you have a special occasion coming up whether it be a birthday party, bachelorette party, divorce party or if you just want to bring women together to have a good laugh, contact Chrystal Bougon. Believe me, you will not regret it! Bliss Pleasure Parties, Inc. http://www.blisspartiesinc.com

Thank you all for your time!! ”

So much fun! We appreciate your kind words, Peg. I love this shout-out because it talks about all of the super fun reasons to have a pleasure party:  Just for Fun, PTA Moms, Divorce Party, Birthday Party and a bachelorette or bridal shower is another fab occasion for a Bliss Pleasure Party.

To book your own Pleasure Party, just go to our pleasure party website  BlissPartiesInc.com and you can book online or give us a call at 408-826-9087 and we’d love to talk with you about hosting your own Pleasure Party.

Sex Toys for women and couples that plug into your MP3 Player. How naughty is your play list on your iPod or other MP3 player?

“I knew a girl named Nikki, I guess you could say she was sex fiend. I met her in a hotel lobby masturbating with a magazine.”  “Let’s Get It On.” “Wicked Games.” “I’m a Sex Machine.” “Sexual Healing.” “Paradise City!” Anything by Metallica, Mazzy Star, Nine Inch Nails, INXS, Gypsy Kings or Tom Petty.  I know. My list is kind of crazy.

Check out this fun blog I found when I googled “songs that make you want to fu*k“. This woman compiled a list of 12 songs that all look pretty fun and inspired to me!

But, back to the point of this blog. This sex toy plugs into your MP3 player and VIBRATES to whatever you have on your play list. The woman who invented these toys had an idea to combine her iPod and her dildo and came up with a vibrator that vibrates to the music. Isn’t that brilliant?  Sex Toys for the iPod!

• Body Safe Materials
• 3 foot cord for ease of use
• Velvety smooth finish
• Comes in lots of cool, vibrant colors that will match our iPod

We do sell the Naughtibod on our very tasteful online sex toy store and we sell it at our Pleasure Parties, too.

BUY the Naughtibod using our BLOG coupon code for 15% off.

This is a great toy for clitoral orgasms or for penetration. You can use this sex toy alone or during partner sex.

What’s on your NAUGHTY Play List? Please comment here!

Blissconnection.com

Blissfully, Chrystal Bougon

Sex Toy Expert, Sex Expert

Mr. S Leather & Madame S Leather is practically a San Francisco Landmark. Here is a link from @violetblue that has a super cool TOUR of their FETISH  Store & Factory in San Francisco on her Blip.tv account here:  (N.S.F.W.!  )  http://www.blip.tv/file/240382  You can check out their ISOLATION chamber on this video, too. As Violet says in this video, their store is like a “Disneyland for perverts.”

But, I digress. I have never been to their store, but clearly I need to make a trip there some day to check it all out. I have NO idea what some of those implments are in the video – would be an education and then some.

This Wednesday, the 21st, I am interviewing Chris from Mr. S Leather all about the new product the She-Stim.  Chris & Mr. S Leather were kind enough to ship me a sample of this interesting new ELECTRO sex toy. I can’t wait to learn more about thse “ELECTRO” sex toys. I was not brave enough to try it anywhere intimate, but I did put it in my hand and my friends’ hand and we both agreed it feels like a really BIG shock of static electricity.

This is from the She-stim packaging and it describes this unique sex toy:

“She-Stim is a unique type of sexual stimulation product range due to the fact that unlike normal sex toys that vibrate or rotate, She-Stim directly stimulates your nerve endings using carefully produced electrical signals to generate a highly stimulating sensation.

When the She-Stim Electro Touch is connected to specially designed erotic electrodes the genital areas are stimulated externally or deep inside in a wide variety of ways, adding a new dimension to self pleasuring, foreplay or intercourse.”

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Sex Toy options are endless. If you are new to sex toys, it can be VERY daunting trying to figure out where to start. We were all there, once.  There are some really fantastic toys out there these days. There is the old stand by and super famous Original Rabbit Pearl made in Japan with Honday motor parts from our good friends at Vibratex. There are beautiful rechargeable toys by Lelo and JimmyJane. There are the toys that vibrate to your Play List on your Mp3 Player by OhMiBod and the list goes on and on. (Free Sex Toy)

While there are sex toys that are higher quality and with fancier attachments, I still like women and couples to start with the Silver Bullet Sex Toy. It’s the perfect toy if you are new to sex toys. It’s a great place to start if you have never had an orgasm and it’s a cool toy if you have never had a multiple orgasm. It can be used alone or with partner intercourse. It’s just so PERFECT and small. It’s discreet and fairly quiet. It only takes 2 AA battries and it does not look like a big huge penis!   There are atleast 13 Ways to Use this Sex Toy

Stop Faking It and Just Have an Orgasm Ladies! Our Bliss Mission is to get one FREE Silver Bullet into the hands of every single woman over 18 in the U.S. Check out our http://http://www.freesilverbullet.com website for more information!

All you have to do is pay for the box, the handling, the packing material and the bullet. We ship it to you discreetly from Northern CA. You will be on your way to sexual bliss and will revel in how easy it can be to have an orgasm even during intercourse. (Just put it on your clitoris while he penetrates you. The vibration will feel great to both of you. And, if he is nervous at all, tell him that our vagina is going to clamp down very TIGHTLY on his penis when you climax from the bullet on our clitoris.) We also have 3 Tips for Helping your Sex Toys to Last Longer

Please share our “free” offer for the Silver Bullet and our new website http://www.freesilverbullet.com/ with all of your friends, on Facebook, Twitter and anywhere else you would like. We want every woman in the U.S. to have a SILVER BULLET!   FREE VIBRATOR

We want EVERYONE to stop faking it and just have one and we know that the Silver Bullet is almost always a guaranteed orgasm! You can browse our entire sex toy store at BlissConnection.com and you can always add a silver bullet to your purchase for 1 penny when you spend $25 or more on our sex toy store online.

We blogged about “Orgasming with a Man” and all of the insecurities and the intense stream of consciousness some women have before they decide to have sex with someone new. This came about after I got a request to fill out a survey for a website where they are researching women and our pleasure response. The survey came from a site called www.MarriedandHappy.com .  The question I thought was so intriguing was this: ““Question: Once a woman starts making love with a man, what causes her to be orgasmic with him?”  And this link to our blog includes this inner dialogue that MarriedAndHappy suggests some women have.  The author had such a fantastic response and from a male perspective, too, I wanted to highlight it for all of you:

From Calle Zorro of  www.MarriedAndHappy.com :

“Your statement of “No one can give you an orgasm. It’s your job to have an orgasm, not someone’s job to give you one.” is SOOOO true.

And you know, it’s the craziest thing…too many women are waiting around for someone to GIVE them one…and all they need to do is take the reins so to speak and HAVE one!

There’s nothing to “get”…they already HAVE everything that’s needed.

But of course, it’s hard to HAVE an orgasm when a woman’s mind is on everything EXCEPT what it’s supposed to be focused on during lovemaking. For example, how can a woman expect to have an orgasm if she’s analyzing and trying to figure out what her lover thinks of her looks or size? How can she expect to have an orgasm if she’s paranoid over keeping her lover from seeing her butt (or some other part of her anatomy) in a certain light or angle?

I can assure you, when a woman is naked with him, NO normal, decent, reasonable man is thinking about or even noticing some wrinkle, bulge, or stretch-mark. He’s ONLY thinking about ONE line of thought:

Does this woman WANT to give AND receive affection and pleasure WITH me? Does she WANT to enjoy me WHILE I enjoy her? Does she WANT to be with me like I WANT to be with her? Does she WANT to give herself to me like I want to give myself to her?

And, if the answer is “Yes!” then the woman could look like an elephant or a giraffe for all the man cares.

This is why ALL guys like James Bond movies…in addition to the action, they can pretend for an hour and a half that they are that guy with whom a sexually-charged woman WANTS to be with.

Same thing with porn…and by no means am I condoning or promoting porn…I’m just making a point…many women see what men are looking at and they feel intimidated…they get offended and feel cheated…because they THINK there is no way they can “compete” with the sculptured, oiled, highlighted women in porn…and they totally miss that the ONLY thing the guy is noticing is how much the woman LIKES and WANTS to be affectionate and sexual with the male actor…and how much the woman enjoys everything. And of course, porn doesn’t at all represent reality…but it TOTALLY sums up the essence of what a man wants…a woman who WANTS him with a passion!

For a man, there is NO “love-connector” more powerful than a woman who WANTS to share affection and pleasure WITH him…in spite of HIS faults AND HERS!

So, ladies, LET GO of any negative stuff in your head…WANT your man…WANT to feel pleasure…and HAVE yourself a wonderful, incredible, deeply-connecting orgasm with your man.”

From Chrystal: Would love your comments here. What do you think? Ladies – is it helpful? Does it help you to know his perspective and can you use this to replace those negative “tapes” we all have running through our own heads and replace them with these positive thoughts? We’d love to hear from you here.

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Stop Faking It, Just Have One has been my mantra for the past 5 years or more (well, actually maybe since about the time I turned 30). “No one can give you an orgasm. It’s your job to have an orgasm, not someone’s job to give you one” is the first line of the book I am writing. When I read this survey and this sort of  “stream of consciousness” from Calle on her survey about a woman’s orgasm, I knew I had to share it. It’ just gives you what I feel is a sliver of the thought process women go through before we have sex with someone new and before we can climax with a partner.

Calle has a website called “MarriedandHappy.com” and her website is all about “Intimate, Happy & Fulfilling Relationships.”  Clever, right?  She has lots of ways to help couples in long term relationships strengthen their bond and keep the sex good and going and going and going.

Ok, here’s the quote from her survey I wanted to share about the thoughts that run through a woman’s head and the decision process many of us go through to allow us to surrender to the pleasure:

“Question: Once a woman starts making love with a man, what causes her to be orgasmic with him?

Calle’s Answer: When she reaches the conclusion, “Ok, I can relax…everything seems to be ok…he’s relaxed and enjoying himself…everything seems to be feeling good to him…he seems to be really enjoying me…he seems to really be into me…he doesn’t seem to be in a hurry or a rush…so, I guess I CAN and should start enjoying myself too…I guess I CAN and should start noticing what feels good…I guess I CAN and should tune into what is pleasurable…yes…I feel safe…yes…he seems to be fully accepting me…yes…I I LOVE the connection we have…yes…this is sexy and erotic…yes…it’s ok…if I need to, I can tell him or guide him to do whatever I need for me…ok…this is nice…yes…this IS nice…everything is ok…it’s just us…nothing else matters…it’s just me and him…and this moment of love and connection…of true intimacy…ohh…this feels good…this IS good…” Then, at some point a woman stops thinking, caring, comparing, judging, evaluating, worrying, etc. and surrenders to the joy and pleasure of connection and feeling…she ALLOWS and LETS herself go with the pleasure…she DRIVES the man as needed to GIVE her the pleasure she needs, and once she does this, she has moved into the “orgasmic / pleasure / surrendered state“…which barring any distractions or interruptions will take her to orgasm. ”

I put the text in red because I wanted to ephasize that part.

My take on this is that if he has invited you into his bedroom or boudior – he is ALL THOSE THINGS and so if you can, that is the time to let go of all of that worry about the COMPARING and the EVALUATING and let go. ENJOY. I know it can be hard work for us to do that, but we all know the sex will be so much better if everyone can just let go of all of that STUFF we have rattling around in our brain and just enjoy the pleasure we deserve.

We’d love your comments here on our blog. Please check out Calle’s website. GREAT site with great info and great tools. You can also join us on our Facebook Fan Page at http://www.Facebook.com/BlissConnection

My inbox is constantly filled with newsletters and RSS feeds about SEXTING and Tips for taking flirty or naughty pics with your cell phone so I thought I would compile a list here with some good resources for sexting, naughty pics for your lover, good phone sex and sending naughty texts. Clearly this is a trend that is growing and not going anywhere…. until the next great technology comes around for sharing porn that is. (The Internet’s FOR PORN as they sing in Avenue Q.)

Love the Wikipedia’s definition of foreplay: “Any act that creates and enhances sexual desire in a sexual partner may constitute foreplay, including kissing, touching, embracing, talking, and teasing.”

5 Tips on Taking Sexy Pics with your Cell Phone from BettyConfidential.

This is hilarious. A video from Skyy John on how to SEND DIRTY PICS  the right way! No faces peeps!

Sexting Tips for Adults  from Single Minded Women

10 Tips for Good Phone Sex from Mademan.com

We all have this technology around us, why not use it to KEEP the sex great and add in some sparkle and surprise into our sex lives. Just be smart about it…. no face pics. You never know who will end up with that cell phone or with that laptop.  We all need ways to add in more foreplay into our love lives and using your cell phone, digital camera and email can really make things SUPER hot. Everyone love A.N.T.I.C.I.P.A.T.I.O.N.

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Sex Toy that does not vibrate. Well, I can honestly say I have NEVER seen anything like this before. Well, check that. I have seen this kind of thing, but only online – not in my hot little hands.  This sex toy does not vibrate. It uses an electrical signal to stimulate you… for him and her. Here is a blurb from the She-Stim website:

“She-Stim is a unique type of sexual stimulation product range due to the fact that unlike normal sex toys that vibrate or rotate, She-Stim directly stimulates your nerve endings using carefully produced electrical signals to generate a highly stimulating sensation.

When the She-Stim Electro Touch is connected to specially designed erotic electrodes the genital areas are stimulated externally or deep inside in a wide variety of ways, adding a new dimension to self pleasuring, foreplay or intercourse.”

I am a little nervous, to be honest. I mean, it only takes a 9 v battery, but when I plugged it in I could not feel anything at all on my wrist and then I touched it with my fingers and I felt that weird little jolt like if you get the butter knife stuck in the toaster while it’s on (ok, i was 13 and I had braces on so it was a little unpleasant). Or maybe you know that feeling when you plug in something really old and you get that little jolt or like a really strong static electricity feeling.  So, I am not sure about this one but I will try to be brave.

Please comment here if you have tried these electro stim style toys.

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15 Reasons we LOVE the Eros Lube – Pjur Bodyglide

1. Never gets dry or sticky – ever. (We have written about this lube before and we called it “possibly the best lube ever” and you can read our blog about the Eros Lube here.)

2. No preservatives

3. No fragrance

4. No flavor

5. No glycerin – which means it’s SUPER for women with sensitivities. (Buy EROS here.)

6. Great for sex under water – fun in the hot tub or the shower (keeps everything slick under water!).

7.  Super female friendly and if you use it for sex at night, when you wake up in the morning for some morning sex, you may not have to reapply.

8. Perfect for anal sex – you can read our blog about 9 Tips for Pain Free Anal Sex here.

9. Great for massage – little tiny drop goes a LONG way!

10. Fun for putting on your skin for a human slip and slide action

11.  Looks beautiful on body art

12. Can put it in your hair like biosilk or have a nice shiny landing strip

13.  Fantastic skin moisturizer – great for ashey elbows, feet and knees.

14. Condom compatible (in fact many condoms have silicone lube inside them to make a more skin tight fit and give the person wearing it more sensation).

15. Great with toys – just can’t use silicone lube with silicone toys.

We feel like the EROS really is the best lube ever!  BEST EVER LUBE BLOG

You can buy the EROS LUBE here on our very tasteful online web store BlissConnection.com

We get such amazing feedback from our customers once they try the Eros lube. It’s like no other lube out there and it is so luxurious and luscious – it blows doors on water based lubricant.

You can use the coupon code Eros09 for a free 30 ml bottle with your $50 purchase.