7 Tips on How Not to Eat Her Cookie

by Chrystal Bougon on November 10, 2010


For some women, the only way they can orgasm through partner sex is from oral sex. It’s my own personal opinion that giving someone oral pleasure is a VERY high compliment. To our female readers, please treat it as a high compliment and an important gift and receive it with as much Bliss as it was offered. (Just say YES! And receive the pleasure you deserve!)

Here are 7 Tips on how NOT to eat her cookie. (7 Oral Sex Tips for men.) We have heard from thousands of women at our home Bliss Pleasure Parties and these tips are based on the feedback we have recieved from our customers.

Oral Sex Tip #1 : Gentlemen, please do not get SUPER focused on one area of our clitoris. The pointy “woodpecker” tongue can be nice for a bit, but please mix it up. Use your entire tongue. Make it flat. Make it pointy. Make it soft. Make it rigid. Please change things up. The clitoris has 8,000 nerve endings. It’s super sensitive – or can be sometimes. We like your ENTIRE tongue, please use it. Focusing one one spot on our clitoris can make us want to jump out of our skin. (Or out of your bed.)

Oral Sex Tip #2 : Please start off slow. This is not fast food. This is a luxurious, decadent, gourmet restaurant and we want you to savor every moment so we can savor every moment, too. Our lady parts have all sorts of sensitive areas. Kiss and nibble our inner thighs, our labia, use your lips, use your breath. We feel every little nuance and it all feels very very good and gets us warmed up. (Remember the old cliche. Women = crock pots. Men = microwave oven.)

Oral Sex Tip #3:  Please leave some of the PORN tricks out. I have yet to meet a woman who raves about the old Howard Stern tip to do the “alphabet” with your tongue on our clitoris. You can learn some very cool technique in adult movies, but please keep in mind we are just “regular women” and not sexual athletes. And, we can tell when you’re doing the alphabet technique. I know you are more creative then that. Do you know about the “Ring around the Rosey” technique? Swirl your tongue in small circles around our exposed clitoris. Clockwise and counter clockwise.

Oral Sex Tip #4:  If you want us to be comfortable ejaculating or squirting, please do not focus on it too much. Once this becomes goal oriented, we lose interest. We want to get lost in the moment and do not want to feel like you are working so hard to try and get us to squirt or ejaculate like your favorite webcam girl. We might squirt. We might not. But, the moment you go to work down there trying to make us squirt is the moment we shut down.

Oral Sex Tip #5 : Please linger and lavish our clitoris almost like you would like us to enjoy your penis. Think of all of the techniques you enjoy on your own bits. Do you love gentle sucking? Do you love nibbles? Do you enjoy a little teeth or deeper suction? Then gently try out all of those techniques on our clitoris. After all, it is basically a small penis but with double the nerve endings. If you are at a loss for what to do while you’re down there, just imagine all of the lovely techniques you have received over the years and try those out on our clitoris.

Oral Sex Tip #6 : When we are good and warmed up, please do use your fingers as well. (Be sure they are very clean and you have clipped or filed your fingernails pretty short.) Many women enjoy one or two fingers inside of their vagina while you kiss and suck on her clitoris. You may find her thrashing around in your bed from a blended orgasm when try this technique out on her. I promise she will come back for more if you master that one.

oral sex cookieOral Sex Tip #7 : Everyone’s favorite sexual technique is ENTHUSIASM. If she senses you are feeling the least bit obligated or bored, she will shut right down. Women have so many issues in their head about their vulvas and vaginas. The media tells us it needs to smell better thanks to all of those awful commercials and the media tells us it needs to be shaven, waxed, lasered. Some women even have surgery on their labia to try and look more like the vaginas we see in adult magazines.  It’s a very vulnerable position to be in when we are laying their “starfish” style with our legs spread (the very thing we have been taught all of our life NOT to do) and you’re staring right at us in the most intimate way.

Please be aware of how self concious and vulnerable we feel and try to be very complimentary and enthusiastic. I promise, it pays off in the end for you. That enthusiasm and confidence can turn a woman who is  a little self conscious into the lusty, naughty woman you want in your bed .

We would love your feedback and other tips. We also offer some fantastic books and games around cunnilingus and fellation on our very tasteful online sex toy store BlissConnection.com.  You can shop our website adult se toy site www.BlissConnection.com , tune into our radio show “Everyone Wants to have Better Sex”, listen to our podcasts on iTunes   www.BlissOniTunes.com  or join our Bliss Fan Page on Facebook at www.Facebook.com/BlissConnection


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Sapphire November 22, 2010 at 9:12 pm

I could not agree MORE with Tip #7! The BEST thing is when I *know* a guy is really into it. If he’s not, it makes it extremely hard for me to enjoy it, at all. Learn to love it! LOL 🙂

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Hardin Reddy November 22, 2010 at 10:41 pm

One lover once told me the most memorable highlight of our cunnilingus sessions was my stroking her inner thigh as I licked. Experiment, and be gentle.

Anonymous November 22, 2010 at 11:19 pm

Yes, the inner thigh tickle is very very nice. Our inner thighs are packed with nerve endings. Fun to tease the lips and mound, too!

Ursula November 23, 2010 at 12:57 am

Thanks for these great tips. It’s so important for a woman to feel relaxed while she’s receving pleasure so she can really feel it. Personally, I also find that I don’t necessarily want a lot of attention on the head of my clitoris until I am really warmed up, and even then, I get a lot of pleasure from attention to the clitoral leg area, between the head and vaginal opening. Too much focus on the head and I definitely want to jump out of bed!

Chrystal Bougon November 23, 2010 at 9:49 pm

Thanks Ursula. I agree – it’s all about feeling comfortable.

Chrystal Bougon November 23, 2010 at 9:50 pm

Great advice Hardin. 🙂 Inner thigh is soooo sensitve for most women.

Undasea November 26, 2010 at 8:09 pm

Oh yes, I hereby solemnly swear to follow the above rules to the best of my ability, so help me Big O.

Chrystal Bougon November 26, 2010 at 1:47 pm

Awesome sauce. Thanks for the comment. YOu are officially in the drawing for a free 5 Speed bullet. Happy long weekend.

Kathy November 29, 2010 at 4:18 am

Thanks for sharing these great tips! I especially agree with #2, and us girls can’t be rushed into an orgasm, no matter how hard a guy might try. The microwave and crock pot analogy is hilarious, and it’s too bad that some men just don’t get that they need to try and be a crock pot too! Number 6 is a really good one, and it reminded me to remind my husband about that little trick!

Chrystal Bougon November 28, 2010 at 10:18 pm

Thank you for your comment, Kathy. I agree – no rushing. It’s all about the journey.

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