Can you be Sexy at any Size? HELLS YAH! I am so excited to announce a partnership between Boudoir Photography by Jeanine and BlissConnection.com! We want to prove to the world that women can be sexy at any size and would love to photograph your sexy self. It’s an essay contest and the winners will receive some sexy make up, a sassy up do by Lisa of www.GetHairExtensions.net and beautiful boudoir photographs from Jeanine Brown Boudoir Photography.
(Check out Jeanine’s blog about our Sexy at any Size contest. What makes you feel sexy?)
We are looking for 3 to 5 models for a sassy day of pampering, primping and photos. We invite you to send us a blog comment or an email (to blissconnection@gmail.com) describing in 100 – 500 words what makes you feel SEXY. Tell us about you, about your journey and what it is that makes you feel sexy. How do you IGNORE what the media is selling? What has your journey been like? Why would you enjoy receiving a FREE boudoir session and why would you like to be involved in our project? How can you help us inspire other women, young and old, to embrace their inner vision and show the world how SEXY they are.
On April 24th, we will be photographing our WINNERS at Sedusa Studios in Campbell ! We will announce the winners on Monday, April 4th. STAY TUNED.
Please remember that by submitting your blog comment, email or essay you are agreeing to let us use portions of your essay/ comments and your photographs in all of our promotions about this Sexy at Any Size Project. Of course, we want you to be happy with the photographs and will ask for your input once we finish the photo session. But, we do reserve the right to make all of the final decisions about the photographs we settle on for future blog posts. (We will be sure that they are minus any nudity. No wardrobe malfunctions or nip slips! )
Each winner will be treated to hair, make up and a 30 minute photo session with Jeanine Brown and please bring your sexiest lingerie, bras, costumes, props, etc. I will be happy to lend some of our Bliss lingerie, bustiers and corsets for the photo session, too.
So come on – tell us WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL SEXY? Tell us why we should choose you. We look forward to seeing your sexy selves soon! Have any questions? Feel free to email me at blissconnection@gmail.com
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The #1 thing that makes me feel sexy is the look in his eyes when he sees me that says I’m the sexiest thing he’s ever seen and he can’t resist me. That look alone transformed the way I feel prancing around the bedroom naked and being able to ask for what I want without shame!
To start this off, I was in a domestic violent relationship since I was fifteen years old. I had no self esteem, no self confidence, and No sexual awareness. I was only able to wear t-shirts, jeans and tennis shoes (which I did feel comfortable in at the time but always wanted more) Not sure why women endure this, but I finally left when I was nineteen.After a few months I went from this frumpy & no love for myself to ordering from sexy catalogs (clothing & shoes) I started going to school for Massage therapy and obtained a job at a local radio station. This boosted my self esteem because before, I was a Maid & waitress and was always told I would never amount to anything or be anyone special. I met so many new people in the new town I moved to, they were impressed and that helped get me on the path to feeling powerful, confident, and sexy. I started wearing three piece business outfits, and sexy 4 1/2 in heels, not because I wanted to flaunt but because I had found myself! Being able to walk with my head up high, even though I am over weight, I feel great. I feel like a woman, I love my curves, and I feel media can affect women negitively. Women try so hard to be someone else, and the reality is we come from different walks of life, different genes, no photoshop, and culture leaves a great impact on who we are. The only way to find your”Sexy” Happiness you must LOVE yourself. Embrace the things which make you unique and it turn you will feel beatiful.I have been through so much, but I did find myself and Love myself early on~ Boudoir photography takes some women out of their element and when they see their poweful sexy side, a new self confident woman is born! I had always wanted to do something like that, only because I’ve never been so confident in front of a camera and in sexy lingerie to boot..lol I just know it will boost immensely 🙂 Good Luck to all the women out there xoxoxo
~Ria H
I find sexy to be a mindset. If I take care of myself – wear clothing, shoes, makeup the way I like then I feel sexy. I think sexy is all about loving myself and feeling happy with who I am. Of course it never hurts when someone gives me a glance that let’s me know they also think I’m sexy.
When I feel sexy, I am feeling confident, flirty, and playful. Turning on the attitude, and feeling classy and elegant. Wearing something silky and alluring that accentuates my voluptuous curves. Turning up the dial on all the senses. Dabbing a sweet and spicy scent in all the places I want to invite a kiss, behind the ears, the back of the neck, behind the knees, inside the ankle, tucked in the cleavage. Creating the mood with warm lighting, soulful music, a cozy nest, sensuous food and drink. Revealing a sexy gift, something very personal, to your lover. I just got engaged this month, and I have been planning to have a boudoir photo session as a gift for my fiance. I have never taken boudoir photos before, because in the past, I have had insecurities, but I have come to understand that sexy is a state of mind, and if you believe you are, you become so. The confidence you display is what is truly sexy.
I have always been told, since I was young, that I was overweight – even when I was a size 6! I came to realize in college, that it wasn’t that I was overweight, but that I was CURVY! I’ve always had an hourglass figure, and have been very well endowed since I was in junior high – since this didn’t fit in with the stereotypical Asian body type, my parents told me that I was fat. It has taken me a LONG time to start to feel comfortable in my own skin, and this is still not easy.
I have been lucky enough to have two husbands who have always been very appreciative and turned on by my body, no matter what size I was. They have shown me how to love my curves and taught me that no one can make me feel bad about my body, but myself. I feel most sexy when I’m treating myself well, eating healthy, and working out; I don’t mean starving myself and spending all day working out, but keeping myself healthy, not worrying about my size or the number on the scale (which has always been 20 pounds more than other women the same size as me, because of the aforementioned curves). Feeling healthy and fit gives me a sense of empowerment, and after I’ve worked out (whether that’s in the gym, or going on a hike) I can feel myself walking taller and having a little more swagger. I find that when I feel good about myself, people seem to be a lot friendlier to me; I get more blushes from cashiers at stores when I look them in the eye and smile.
I feel extremely sexy when my husband and I are out with the kids, and he looks at me with an appreciative smile and winks– it feels so naughty! Or when he puts his hand on my side, under my shirt. I love feeling comfortable in my clothes, so I feel sexy when I’m in a t-shirt that hugs “the girls” just right, and jeans that sit comfortably on my hips, with my flip flops or boots that my husband got for me one Christmas – thankfully, my husband thinks I look sexy in jeans and t-shirt too.
Since I never wear makeup or do anything special with my hair – other than for weddings or holiday parties – it would be fun to be pampered in that way, and wear heels or sexy little outfits/lingerie that I don’t normally wear. I would love to give my husband sexy boudoir photos of me for his birthday in May!
Sexy is Confidence. Confidence is Sexy. A lacy bra, cute heels, and good hair day usually do the trick. Add in some music with good bass, candles, and kama sutra dust and I’m there… with or without company. 🙂
Fortunately, I have a hubby that loves me at any size and makes me feel very sexy, even in my sweats.
I applaud the ladies sharing their comments- THAT is sexy!
I have a picture in my bathroom that says: “If you are confident, you are beautiful.” Every morning I look at the saying and remind myself to be confident. I have always been heavy and I used to hide behind baggy, frumpy clothes. 2 years ago I lost 60 pounds and felt great. I was still overweight, or what some people called fat. I learned however, in all my hard work to get to where I was, that my body is my own and it is beautiful. I gained a lot of confidence in myself, and started surrounding my self with positive people. I began to get noticed at the bars, and began to climb out of my shell. I also began wearing clothes that fit, sexy underwear. My physical beauty began to shine as I found my inner beauty. I love my curves and wouldn’t trade them for anything and feel sexy just by being true to myself…sometimes it is in sweats, or jeans and a t-shirt, or sexy underwear, or after I finish a nice sweaty workout!
Thanks Vicky. I appreciate your comments and entry. You know that eye contact gets’em every time doesn’t it!
You get down with your bad self, Ria. Own your power woman. Your journey is very inspiring.
Thank you for your entry. It’s amazing how being around other positive people can help us to feel loved and more confident. Also good fitting clothes – no matter what your size – is always more flattering. Thanks.
I agree. SHARING is sexy. Confidence is super hot!
Congratulations, Jennifer. Thank you for your entry and for sharing.
I agree. It is a mindset. You have to LOVE yourself first. Then other people can love you, too.
Everyone loves a woman who knows what she wants and is not afraid to ask for it!
Sexy is all an attitude between your ears! I can turn it on or off, my closest friend says that when I want to I can exude it from my pores. Since I have been going through a rough time personally, my sexiness has been shut off! I have always been comfortable in my skin, but feeling desired used to be the biggest way I would feel sexy as a young woman in my twenties. I can now appreciate, nearing 40 , that it has nothing to do with what others think, but everything to do with how you feel about yourself. I feel best about me when I am taking good care of myself, eating well, getting great exercise, setting goals in my business, and enjoying time with my good friends.
I would love the boudoir session to get back my mojo, it has been seriously crushed lately and I think just getting dressed up, made up and sexified would help me find it again! I love your mission and I can help by doing something outside of my comfort zone, for me, to help myself!
Thanks for your entry. YES! Sexy at any size and any age. It’s funny – menm always ask me about the erogenous zones for women. They want to know secrets or tips about what we want or need. I try to help them understand it’s actually the BRAIN!
My journey to embrace my plus-sized sexy self began when I started belly dancing. I started taking classes six years ago with my best friend (who was a lot thinner). During our second year of dancing I really hit a crisis. I made my own bra and belt to ensure it would fit. I had given our instructor very precise measurements and colors for a matching skirt. The skirt I ended up with didn’t fit and didn’t match my costume. I turned the anger in on myself. I almost stopped dancing that night; I was so ashamed of my body and frustrated. Thankfully the other two plus sized members of my troupe and another more experienced dancer helped me realize the costume isn’t the reason I dance. That’s when I started joining size acceptance groups and re-learning all the lessons I’d been taught as a kid from a mother who hated her body and had eating disorders.
I’ve come up with my own philosophy. I believe that our bellies are sacred– they are our creative centers and we should honor them. In ancient times a round belly was desirable; it meant a woman was fertile and healthy. So many belly dancers want flat bellies and they hate their bellies. It’s odd to think of that when it’s a dance where the belly is integral to the dance.
I also discovered that for years I had not given myself permission to move the way my body wanted to move. My parents wouldn’t let me dance as a child. If I wanted to play sports, that was fine, but no dancing. So I didn’t move. I learned that fat people can move. We have as much right to move the way that we want to move as anyone else. I gave myself permission to move in the way that my body likes to move. Dancing feels good. It’s empowering. Dancing is a way of honoring my body and my spirit. Naturally this extends to other things like knowing I can be sexy and seductive and sexually desirable. Why should I give up what gives me joy just because of what other people might think? My next dance journey is studying burlesque, another dance that embraces women of all sizes.
When I’m wearing one of my favorite belly dance outfits, the ones that accent my curves in all the right place I feel desirable, sexy, and very, very happy. I dance better when I feel like I look like a queen.
Springfest is coming up. It’s a big belly dance thing here in Salt Lake. I know that after we perform someone will come up to me and thank me for performing. They’ll ask me how I got started or how do I get the courage to get up there and dance…then I’ll point them in the direction of any number of amazing instructors who have taught me that dance doesn’t discriminate against size.
There are a lot of things that make me feel sexy, but it mostly has to do with those times when I’m feeling happy and confident.
It usually starts out really simply. You wake up, and for some reason you’re having a great hair day. Then you decide to wear that outfit you love. It’s nothing special, but it makes you happy – maybe because you secretly know that you can make the skirt flare out if you spin around like a little girl. This morning though it seems to fit you especially well in all the right places. You’re already a little giddy by the time you walk outside. It’s beautiful outside, and the sun starts to warm your back. You’re feeling pretty and happy, so you flash a smile at some random guy walking by. At first, he seems almost surprised, then he stops to beam back at you. I love those moments – it’s a mini-power trip – harmless but fun.
Of course, if you’ve ever had that special person, and he gives you that look like you’re the best looking chocolate cake he’s ever seen and you’re about to be devoured, it doesn’t hurt either. But you can’t always wait around for someone else to bring out your sexy, so sometimes I just head to the dance floor. At the bar, I don’t know what to do with myself. But when I’m out on the floor, watch out world. Friends around me, a good song with a great beat, and I don’t care what I look like. I get into what one of my old friends called the zone. I’ve weighed less, and I’ve weighed more, but when I get into the zone, I feel sexy.
After many years I’ve come to terms with the fact that I will never be that skinny girl in the magazines-what the mainstream wants us all to think we have to be to be sexy. What I have is something better-I have a wonderful curvy body, luscious breasts, and an attitude that doesn’t quit. I’m in my mid 40’s and have more men and women who think I have it all going on now then I ever did in my 20’s. Being sexy is all about attitude and confidence, and I love to let people know you don’t have to be what the media portrays to be happy in your skin! I would be honored to be part of your project, and help you show the world sexy doesn’t have a size or age!
As my good friend always says, Penny, don’t buy what the media is selling!
Love it. Yes! Love when they look at you like a big yummy piece of something sweet, Anita. Thanks for the post.
OH yah, I have done belly dance lessons. It does make you feel STRONG and SEXY. Yes, fat people can move. I LOVE TO BUST a move and I can dance and dance for hours. Makes me feel SO good. Thanks for your post.
You are lovely Jen.
Sexy for me is just like a country song, Its when Im not feeling all that beautiful on the outside and my boyfriend cant take his eyes off me, even though women I sometimes would love to look like walk by. Its when Im covered in Poison Oak (like now) and he never musters a look of disgust, and when Im crying because Im not the same girl I looked like when we first met and he looks me in the eye, grabs me and tells me Im just as sexy if not sexier then the the day we met!
It has taken a long time for me to be comfortable in my skin, & the added bonus of having a loving man sure helps! But it doesn’t matter what he thinks until I(we) think that way about ourselves! Everyone is Sexy & Ladies Sexy comes in so many different sizes, colors, ways, that I can’t even begin to count! So wake up EVERY morning and the 1st thing you say is “damnnnn Im one sexy Lady!”.
That’s my country song!
For some women, and I tend to agree with them, feeling sexy it is when they feel fit and healthy. When they neglect their workout routine, they feel sluggish and not at the top of their game. They don’t feel as confident or flirty.
Don’t we often feel sexy when we wear fun, well-fitting clothing that flatters our figures. Some feel sexy in tight jeans, others in more relaxed slacks, and some when wearing swingy skirts. Others find power suits bring out the best in them.
Suits as well as other classy clothes make my feel very attractive.
Thansk for entering, Mollie. I love the poison oak love!
Thank you for your comment, Larysa. Flirt on!
LOL Its still all over my leg! I went out and got sexy knee high socks to match a pair of panties n a bra so that I could keep it covered & him safe! Gotta do what I gotta do!!!!
As the only guy here, I think to be fair – this applies to men too, and we’re always left out!
The focus seems to be on women, and guys are not allowed to be sexy unless they look like David Beckham. You ladies have your lingerie and boudoir as outlets, but men have to be much more subtle about being sexy, and it’s more complicated. We need to keep up the tough, manly persona.
I can say one of the best things I have done is a photo shoot with Jeanine. Why should dressing up (or down!) for a sexy photo shoot be reserved for women? I felt confident enough and secure enough about my body to do a shoot and it was fantastic! Jeanine made me feel terrific and for once I was the center of attention instead of someone else.
Everyone wants to be looked at and desired, but do you think about how us guys feel? What really made me feel sexy was that shoot! Undressing down to tight underwear, then to nothing (yes, I did go nude!) while hearing Jeanine’s encouragement and the camera shutter clicking away was the sexiest thing I ever did!
If you want to feel sexy I encourage you all to contact Jeanine – she can make anyone look – and especially feel – fantastic.
I have emailed my entry 🙂
I’m a living testament to the fact that women can indeed feel sexy no matter what their size! At my heaviest I weighed 400lbs, at my thinnest I was 160lbs, and now I reside comfortably in the middle. No matter what the has scale said over the years, I have always felt sexy in my own skin.
What exactly makes me feel sexy? The feeling comes in a lot of ways – maybe a new outfit I feel good in or a new piece of jewelry, a compliment from a friend about my hair or make-up, a wink from my husband across the room or even a good bikini wax! Wearing sexy lingerie under my serious work clothes makes me feel good – and a little bit naught too! Lately, I’ve even been feeling sexy after working out – even all sweaty and in my work-out clothes. Go figure, huh? I think it has to do with knowing I’m doing something good for myself and that’s what turns me on.
What I’ve learned in my 40’s, that I wish I would have known in my teens and twenties, is that sexy is a state of mind – not a physical state of being. I’ve long since reconciled that I’ll never be a ‘model’ size like the magazines sell, but I’m happy to have voluptuous curves and a healthy attitude about my body!
Thanks to Chrystal and Jeanine for this great affirmation that women can be sexy at ANY size!
Thanks for the reply, Erika.
My darling husband has loved me and made me feel that I was the most beautiful woman in the room from when I was 380lbs even today now that I am 180lbs. In the middle of when I was sickest and having to wear oxygen …he kisses my eyelids, strokes my hair, makes love to me with his voice and body…makes me breakfast every morning…coffee.
He supports me and cherishes me. I love to dance for him:) Last night we went to a fundraiser in Half Moon Bay hosted by bellydancers,….it was so sexy and when we got home….I danced for him….I love the way scarfs and bells feel on me. I love to feel my body slide against my husband as I seduce him in dance. If we didn’t have a child I would have a pole installed in our living room. I love dancing for him.
I am still a lot of woman and I desire to please and share my sexuality with my darling husband till I am 100 years old. 🙂
I love to flirt and feel pretty, I hope I am chosen as one of your sexy ladies as I so much would enjoy and embrace having a makeover for photos 🙂
What makes me feel sexy:
My first love used to make me feel sexy. He would tell me how hot I looked, how bad he wanted me, how amazing in bed I was…and I really believed him. Then one day I didn’t want it, at least not the way that he did… he forced things, and feeling “sexy” hasn’t been the same sense.
Now something as simple as a guy who subtly shows interest in so much as even a 1st date by holding my hand makes me feel sexy. Perhaps sexier than any real life erotic moment ever could.
I walk down the street everyday; going to work, the grocery store, the library… and I command attention. From my D breast to my natural hips, to my intelligence, and fun personality. There is not a doubt in anyone’s mind, that I ooze sexiness, but I only actually “feel” sexy when, I feel good about myself. Now, a man might think he makes me feel sexy by telling me how “hot” I get him, but rarely does that even come close to hitting the spot for me. I feel most sexy on two occasions: 1. When I get out of bed, do my hair (God how I love changing my hair), put on some 4″ heels, and strut my stuff for the audience (everyone in public) before me. Because I sometimes feed off of that attention. And 2. When someone out of the blue shows their vulnerability to me; a secret, a stroke of the hand, a glance that says “wow”; these are also little things that make me feel sexy. Here I feel “wanted” in a different way, I feel trusted, and because I so closely link sexuality and trust… this is perhaps the greatest turn on of all. Once I feel wanted and sexy in the intimate fashion, then I can prop up my striper pole (yes I have one) put on my platforms, and combine the two things that make me feel sexy (attention & vulnerability) into one.
Abrupt professions of hot-horniness simply do not do it for me anymore. Sure, every girl wants some excitement, to be pushed up against a wall and kissed like in the movies, but every woman oozes sexuality (it seeps from our pores) with the the unexpected. That being said… . a man showing venerability is probably one of the most unexpected things known to Man (human, that is).
Thanks Frank! I am so thankful for your post.
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