Anal Sex Tip #1 You must know your own body and you should feel VERY clean and relaxed. Hop in the shower so you are 100% confident. (If you have favorite positons for vaginal penetration, try those first for anal penetration.)
Anal Sex Tip #2 If you can’t SEE IT HAPPENING, it will never happen. You have to want it and you have to be able to envision it happening successfully. Your mind is a powerful instrument and it’s an important element to this type of sex.
Anal Sex Tip #3 You have to find a very good silicone lubricant. Water based lubes do not cut it for backdoor action. Water based lubes dry up quickly. Silicone lubes stay silky and slippery – they do not get sticky like water based lubes can. They don’t dry up like water based lubes, either. Your anus does not lubricate like your vagina when you are excited. (We sell Eros silicone lubrican on our very tasteful online romance store BlissConnection.com )
Anal Sex Tip #4 Use a condom for all anal sex. Even put a condom on any toys if you are using them anally on you or your male partner. Much easier to sanitize later. Our ANAL SEX PODCAST IS HERE IF YOU PREFER TO LISTEN.
Anal Sex Tip #5 Something you often seen women in porn do, is to use a clitoral small toy or their fingers on their clitoris during any anal play. Orgasms or clitoral stimlation can bring blood flow to your pelvic region and it sort of distracts you from what is going on. If anything hurts – STOP. Anal penetration should not hurt.
Anal Sex Tip #6 Small items like fingers and small anal toys are a great way to warm up. Never use a sex toy anally unless it has a STOPPER on the end so it does not get lots in your anal cavity. When people get excited, things can get pulled into your rectum – hence all of the crazy stories you hear about emergency room trips at 3 a.m. (One of our personal favorites for anal play before anal penetration is the BENDI butt plug.
Anal Sex Tip #7 Our male partners have to know we are not porn stars. (As Jamye Waxman said on Better Sex Radio, porn stars are sexual athletes.) Regular women cannot do what porn stars do. We have to take it slow and we have to control the penetration – not them. So, the female partner moves onto the penis. He should never be the one creating the insertion. The female partner controls all of the insertion and penetration. No crazy jack hammer humping your female partner anally…unless she begs you to, of course.
Anal Sex Tip #8 Last but not least, the woman should “bear down” or use her muscles to sort of PUSH as she moves onto the penis. Pushing helps relax the muscle set in the anus and opens it up a bit more to allow for penetration.
Anal Sex Tip #9 LUBRICATE LUBRICATE LUBRICATE….. you just cannot have enough good lube for anal sex. Key word her, GOOD lube like the Eros Silicone www.BlissConnection.com carries on their sex toy website.
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