After you enter your 30’s, the dating game begins to change. Gone is the newness and excitement of dating in your teens and 20’s. In your 30’s and 40’s, you might be more apprehensive and gun-shy because of previous heartache. Just because dating is not as new and exciting as it was before, though, doesn’t mean it can’t be a whole lot of fun. At this point, you’re starting to really know what you need and don’t need from a partner. This makes it easier to start looking for more compatible mates. These three things will make dating after your 20’s easier and more fun.
Enjoy the Single Life
You’re wise enough to know now that you can’t control everything in your life. There’s no way of willing Mr. Right into your life right when you want him. So enjoy your single life. You can’t control every circumstance surrounding ‘meeting the one,’ but you can control how you spend your time. Live life to the fullest and pursue the kind of life you want to be living. Another perk of living (and enjoying) the single life: a happy, secure, confident individual is a more attractive individual.
Throw Out the Timeline
Who says you have to be married by a certain age? Where is it determined that you have to say ‘I love you’ by a certain time? There is no “right” time to do anything in relationships. Every relationship is different, so throw away your cookie-cutter timeline. The perfect time is a personal decision. Don’t rush things because you feel they should be a certain way. Once you get rid of your expectations, you’ll find it’s a lot easier to enjoy your relationship for what it is.
Open Your Mind
Maybe in your 20’s you only dated a certain type, or only met potential mates a certain way. How about making your type someone who treats you with respect and like a goddess? You type should be based on how he makes you feel with them. Do they bring you up? Do they care for you and nurture you? Also, don’t limit yourself to your old ways of meeting people. If you mostly met partners at bars in your 20’s, expand your horizons a little. Give online dating a chance, or let your friend set you up with that guy she’s been dying to introduce you to. Give anything (within reason) a shot at least once, that way you’ll really be sure of what you like and don’t like. Emily Morse of Sex with Emily and Bravo’s Miss Advised says, “Just say yes to everything. It’s the fast track to experiencing life.”
Dating in your 30’s and 40’s doesn’t have to be a burden or a bore. Follow these tips, and have fun with it! Let us know what your dating experiences have been. We’d love to hear from you.
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