When your sex life gets into a bit of a funk – what do you do?

by Chrystal Bougon on December 5, 2010

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I am a member of one of Midori’s Yahoo Groups / Forums and saw this question and a fantastic answer from one of her members I just had to share. Even though this question was asking about how to bring the KINK back to this writer’s marriage, I thought the reply from “GeekyButSexy” was perfection and could apply to all relationships. (This is going to be in two parts, because it’s long.)

Question: My wife and I have been in a bit of a kink “funk” lately. We have been married for 3 years and have enjoyed the passion and excitement we are dearly missing!!! We used to do alot of D/s type stuff, rough play, bratty stuff, role play. How do we get this back…..we have gotten way to vanilla!!

Answer from “GeekyButSexy” (I received full permission from Geeky and he asked me to only share his handle and his email. If you would like to reach him by email, please send me a note and I will send it to you offline.)

Ideas for bringing back the kink to your sex life:

1. Get out your schedule planners, and find a time for a date dedicated to kinky sex. If you have difficulty fitting this into your schedule, schedule these *first*. Make it perfectly clear that this is a firm date, and that this date is not for dinner, movies, or dancing. The entire point is to spend at least two or three hours spanking, wrestling, tying, teasing, sucking, and f*cking.

2. Go one further, and schedule a kinky second honeymoon. An entire weekend, or even an entire week, where you plan in advance many different kinky activities, both things you have done before and things you want to try.

3. Hunt down ideas, online, in books, whatever. Share them with your wife. Have her do the same. Have each of you pick out the things you would most like to do, maybe with a rating system. If you do rate them, make it very clear what the ratings mean (i.e. Does a 6 out of 10 indicate you’d like to, or are just willing to?).

Pick one you both agree on, and do it. Enjoy, then pick another. If you really like the one you picked, do it again, but pick others, too.

(Continued in our next blog … read “CuteButSexy’s other ideas for how to bring the KINKY fun back to your sex life.)

Part 2 – Ideas 4 through 6 How to Bring the Kink back to your sex life on Bliss Radio.

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